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Subject: Re: Please help me

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Sharon

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Date Posted: 06/ 1/09 2:36pm
In reply to: Claire 's message, "Please help me" on 05/30/09 8:43am

Claire,

My heart goes out for you. While this is a difficult situation, I think you've already given yourself the answer when you say, "I don't know if I could live with myself for killing my own baby." True, having this baby is not going to be easy, but abortion - while it may seem "easier" at the moment - would not be easy, either. You'll have to live with the reality for the rest of your life. One of the strongest indicators that a woman will regret having had an abortion is if she felt "forced" into it by circumstances or by family members.

I know it would be hard, but have you considered adoption? Your three-year-olds are young enough that you could choose what to tell them (Mommy's just getting a little "heavier" ;-) Your parents, while they might not support you having another child, would have to respect the fact that you were choosing to give your child life and then place him or her with a loving family. True, it would be awkward with your ex-husband, but he would get over it.

I think you should do some research into what abortion actually does and how developed the fetus actually is. You'd hate to run across information that clarified fetal development for you AFTER you'd had an abortion and it was too late to do anything about it. I know there is info at http://www.abortionno.org
I will say a prayer for you.

Sharon

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