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Subject: Re: need advice

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Pat

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Date Posted: 07/16/09 9:40pm
In reply to: Nicole 's message, "need advice" on 07/14/09 9:46am

Hi, Nicole,

Thank you so much for writing back. I think it's very possible your husband would be interested in raising your baby after awhile. That baby is part yours, and if he loves you, then he should love your baby, too.

It would be good to tell your husband, but I would recommend you talk to the folks at the links I gave you and find out the best way to do it. You can wait until later in your pregnancy if you want. See what they have to say.

Please come back and let us know how you are doing. We will be here for you. And you're welcome.

Hugs,
Pat

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[> Subject: Re: need advice

Author:
Sharon
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Date Posted: 07/20/09 1:36pm

Nicole,

I know it might be awkward, but have you considered adoption? True, most people - when they're married and already have a child - don't go the adoption route. But, your situation is unique. If your ex is against abortion, perhaps he would support you in carrying your baby to term and then placing your baby with a loving adoptive family? That way, you would be giving your child life, but you and your ex would be able to pick up where you left off without the complication of your ex thinking of the baby's father when he sees the child. It may be that he's a big enough man that he would be able to rise above that and truly love this baby as his own. That would be wonderful. But, if he feels that would be too difficult, adoption might be a very good, healthy, and loving option... Just a thought.

Sharon