Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 08/ 3/09 11:06am
Julie,
My heart goes out to you.
We are here to support you. So you do have support. If I could give you a hug, I would. But a cyber hug will have to do. ((((((((Julie))))))))
Please go to a local crisis pregnancy organization. They will support you and give you the hugs you need. Your husband has no right to even ASK you to kill your own child.
You can find one by going here:
pregnancycenters.org
You are doing what you need to do. You have a child to protect. Put that foremost in your mind and heart. If you go home, you aren't going to be protecting your child, and that has to come first.
As I mentioned, men don't get to the point of accepting a pregnancy until much later than women do. Give your husband time. If he won't come around, then he has shown that he is willing to do violence to his own child, and if I were in your shoes, I'd seriously ask if I even want to be married to a person like that. Take one day at a time. Let him know you have made your decision, and it's not open to discussion. If he says anything at all about you having an abortion, leave the room. If he follows you, tell him, "I am leaving the room. Don't follow me." If he won't leave you alone, take your other child and go to a women's shelter. Stay there for a few days.
The strength we have isn't ours. It's a gift from God. God promised us never to give us more than we can bear, but will give us a way out. He will give you just enough strength to live through each day if you will let Him. Ask for His strength. Don't try to do it on your own strength. You can't.
I will be here for you. Please take care of yourself and that precious little one you are carrying. Remember, this baby is a gift from God, and is made in His image.
In my own experience, God always has a reason for giving us a child we don't think we want. I'll tell you about my experience. I became pregnant when medically and physically I was tired and worn out. Abortion was unthinkable. The birth was rough. But you know what? That child has been an unbelievable blessing! He delighted me for hours with his classical guitar playing. He stayed with my mother-in-law during her last year of life, when all she wanted was to stay in her own apartment; his presence made that possible, and he was the only one free to do it. He mended a lot of broken family relationships with his counsel. He spent two tours of duty in Iraq to help defend this nation from terrorism. And he has given me a beautiful grandson. Was it worth it? Absolutely! At the time I conceived him, I had no idea what God had in mind for his life, but now I do. You will also find out in due time why God has given you a child your husband doesn't want. He has ENTRUSTED this little one to you.
Your baby is depending on you for your protection. Please protect your baby.
Hugs,
Pat
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