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Subject: Re: Completely Lost & Confused

Author:
Sharon

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Date Posted: 08/ 3/09 9:28am
In reply to: Julie 's message, "Completely Lost & Confused" on 08/ 1/09 12:17am

Julie,

My heart hurts for you right now. It is so incredibly sad that you are feeling torn between protecting your little one inside you and protecting the rest of your family. Does your 13-year-old know you're pregnant? Is he or she encouraging abortion too? (I would think that if I were a sibling and I learned that my parents aborted one of my earlier or later siblings, I would feel terrible knowing that that it could have just as easily have been me and only by the "luck of the birth order" was I spared.)

One thing that comes to mind is that if, after 13 years of birth control, you happened to get pregnant, it certainly sounds like this pregnancy was meant to be.

Also, your comment about the strain on the marriage already is insightful. The fact is, you can end a pregnancy but you can't erase it: You will always have been pregnant with this little one whether you choose to abort or not. And, that reality will impact your relationship with your husband, whether you abort or not.

Sharon

P.S. Have you considered open adoption?

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Re: Completely Lost & Confused

Author:
Shellie
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Date Posted: 08/ 3/09 1:44pm

Julie,

Stand strong! You do not have to abort! I'm so sorry that your husband isn't supporting you when you need it the most. If he is committed to you and loves you, he'll eventually come around.

It doesn't make any sense to abort against your will, just to have a man you'll resent. The pain, guilt, and regret would cause havoc on your marriage. Stand strong--you will get through this!

We are are here for you. God is with you--you are not alone.

Please keep in touch!

Shellie