Re: Completely Lost & Confused -- Unplanned Pregnancy Advice Board

[ Show ]

Support VoyForums

[ Shrink ]

VoyForums Announcement: Programming and providing support for this service has been a labor of love since 1997. We are one of the few services online who values our users' privacy, and have never sold your information. We have even fought hard to defend your privacy in legal cases; however, we've done it with almost no financial support -- paying out of pocket to continue providing the service. Due to the issues imposed on us by advertisers, we also stopped hosting most ads on the forums many years ago. We hope you appreciate our efforts.

Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your contribution is not tax-deductible.) PayPal Acct: Feedback:

Donate to VoyForums (PayPal):

Wednesday, April 15, 12:46:09

[ Login ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, 2, [3], 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 ]

Subject: Re: Completely Lost & Confused

Author:
Sharon

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Date Posted: 08/ 7/09 8:36pm
In reply to: Julie 's message, "Re: Completely Lost & Confused" on 08/ 6/09 3:03pm

Is your husband threatening that he'd take your daughter? Or are you assuming your daughter would choose to go with him?

It's very hard to think clearly when we're under tremendous stress. Take a deep breath. You don't have to do anything immediately. You have time to reflect. Don't let ANYONE pressure you into having an abortion because "time is running out". I almost aborted my first child with that kind of reasoning. But, thank goodness, I cancelled the appointment. Instead of sorrow, grief, resentment, and regret, I have a beautiful son (29) AND he and his girlfriend just had a little boy 9 months ago!

Does your daughter know you are pregnant? If she doesn't know, does she suspect something? It's important to realize that abortion affects siblings, too.

It sounds like your marriage is going to be in serious trouble whether you abort or not. If you do, you will likely regret your husband putting you in the terrible position of having to kill your own offspring in order to make him happy. If you don't, he may threaten to leave. But, if he does leave, he might also return when your little one is born and he actually sees and holds him or her. If it doesn't return, then I hate to say it but you're better off without him.

This child is depending upon you to protect him or her. No one else - absolutely no one else - can or will do it. You're it... (I know that sounds like a huge responsibility, but it comes with glorious rewards! ;-)

Sharon

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]