Re: Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help -- Unplanned Pregnancy Advice Board

[ Show ]

Support VoyForums

[ Shrink ]

VoyForums Announcement: Programming and providing support for this service has been a labor of love since 1997. We are one of the few services online who values our users' privacy, and have never sold your information. We have even fought hard to defend your privacy in legal cases; however, we've done it with almost no financial support -- paying out of pocket to continue providing the service. Due to the issues imposed on us by advertisers, we also stopped hosting most ads on the forums many years ago. We hope you appreciate our efforts.

Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your contribution is not tax-deductible.) PayPal Acct: Feedback:

Donate to VoyForums (PayPal):

Wednesday, April 15, 12:45:14

[ Login ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, 2, [3], 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 ]

Subject: Re: Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help

Author:
Pat

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Date Posted: 08/12/09 12:43pm
In reply to: Su 's message, "Re: Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help" on 08/12/09 8:52am

Hi, Su,

Thanks for the excellent report! Congratulations on everything!

As for your friend, I have several thoughts. First, she shouldn't be making a decision on adoption this early. She really should wait until her last trimester. But if she definitely doesn't WANT to choose adoption, then there is help available. Adoption is a good, honorable, but difficult choice. We have four adopted children in our family.

Obviously, if your friend is a very dependent person, she will need to get some independence. In fact, this often happens when a woman progresses through pregnancy. My daughter's mother-in-law, who works for one of the groups I will mention, says it is amazing how much the women grow. But right now, the important thing is to get some counseling and other help. You can go here: pregnancycenters.org and find an organization in her area that can help. They can counsel her, let her know what help and services are available. Then she will be in a better position to make a decision.

Let us know how things go, and feel free to come back with any other concerns you have.

Hugs,
Pat

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]