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Re: sad and overwhelmed

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Tracey (We're here!!!)

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Date Posted: 11/ 6/08 5:34pm
In reply to: Nancy 's message, "sad and overwhelmed" on 11/ 6/08 10:35am

Nancy~
Hello and welcome! We're so glad you found us! Your thoughts and feelings are very common considering the circumstances! I have to tell you from my own personal experience, 4 is wonderful!!! My husband and I often watch our fourth and just are amazed at how blessed we are to have him...he's such a sweetie! :) As far as your age, I know several children who have had children in their 40's with no problems. And think of your own children...ten bucks says they will be more than ECSTATIC to hear they have a baby brother or sister on the way! And just think--built in baby-sitters!!! :) Again, your concerns are understandable...but I believe there is a reason for this baby! God has a bigger plan that's not always our plan and sometimes not always clear in the beginning. Who knows...this could be the next president! ;) Your depression is quite normal for first trimester...hormones can be all over the place and anxiety and fear can set. I'm here to tell you there's so much more to this than you can even see right now--consider this an amazing gift! Is it a shocker?! Of course! But the more you allow yourself to get used to the idea, the more you will be able to embrace it and rejoice in it! We are here any time you want to talk, Nancy! Please feel free to e-mail me as well anytime! I am praying for peace and understanding in all of this!
God bless,
Tracey

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Pat
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Date Posted: 11/ 6/08 8:27pm

Hi, Nancy,

I'm very glad you came!

I have raised seven children, and you know what? I was sorry we couldn't have more! The love just multiplies. My sister raised four.

Definitely, don't even THINK of abortion. It can rob you of your joy. You should never even have to consider The Decision. Also keep in mind that having an abortion could have an adverse effect on your other children, and can impair your ability to mother them, not to mention it's dangerous and could render you disabled or even kill you. Your baby is depending on you for your protection. Please protect your baby.

Yes, Tracey is right. First trimester hormones can be a bear. I have experienced them as well. Take one day at a time. You are a lot stronger than you think. By the time your baby is born, you WILL be ready to welcome him or her into your arms. That's why pregnancy lasts nine months. :)

As for the extra work involved, keep it simple. Breastfeed. If you can get diaper service, I recommend it. I don't know if it is still available. I was able to travel allovertheplace with my youngest child. I just packed some diapers and a baby sling, and off I went! Your other children can help out a lot, and usually older siblings really don't mind. Consult with your doctor before pouring this one full of inoculations. Breastfeeding and avoiding this sort of thing can result in a healthy child, which is always better. Do some online research about this.

If you feel like picking my brain, since I raised seven, please do! I don't check this board often, but hopefully, the moderators will let me know. Hint, hint! :)

And congratulations! That's awesome!

Hugs,
Pat