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Subject: Re: I'm confused Author: Shellie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 12/17/07 2:23pm In reply to: shannon 's message, "I'm confused" on 12/12/07 6:41am Hi Shannon, It is so normal to not want an unplanned pregnancy, especially if you were not planning on having another child. When it happens by surprise, you feel like you've lost control over your own life. And I think a normal thing to do is to look for a way to get the control back. Abortion can seem like a way to "put things back to how there were". But we all know that it can never be how it was. You can end the pregnancy, but you can't make it so that it never existed. That means you have to live with the guilt of ending your child's existence. Even when you don't want the baby, there is a guilt that goes along with ending another human's life. I know it's not politically correct to say abortion is ending a life. But there is just no avoiding the reality of what it is. And if your fear lets you forget the reality for a while, chances are good that once "it's all over", the reality will slap you in the face. It's important to remember that although most women experiencing an unplanned pregnancy are not happy at first, but almost without exception these ladies are so happy near the end of their pregnancy that they are counting the days to meet their little one. Once you fall in love with the baby, perspectives change. I hope you are able to talk with your husband and let him know that you'll need his help with the baby. Don't be shy about telling him that this time around, you'd appreciate more help from him. Men can change diapers. I recommend a nice approach--it's easier to attract bees with honey than vinegar. I hope you are able to avoid an abortion, and all the pain and guilt that go along with it. You will love your new addition--if only you allow yourself the opportunity. I hope you will post here often. Please keep us posted. Take care, Shellie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]