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Misscarage vs. Abortion

Author:
Kristen (Sad/Curious)

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Date Posted: 06/29/08 2:07am

Can a misscarage have the same effects as an abortion? when I was 14 I was raped by a group of guys and ended up pregnant. Lucky me I lost the baby...but after I did I felt like I had killed my baby and fell into depression. I am now 16 going on 17. A month or so after my 16th birthday I found out I was pregnant again only this time by my boyfriend. We both wanted the baby...but again I lost. Am I doing something to kill my babies? I just don't know. I know I'm too young and all but I feel so much regret for losing my babies. Am I a murderer?

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Re: Misscarage vs. Abortion

Author:
Tracey
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Date Posted: 06/30/08 5:18am

Kristen~
Hello and welcome to our boards! :) To answer your question, in NO way did you do something to cause miscarriage. So, you should not be feeling guilty for that whatsoever! I believe that all things happen for a reason--your body may just not have been ready for that. No, you are not a murderer!!! Yes, you are young...allow yourself time to grow and mature--it feels like yesterday when I was 16 and now I'm 30, but I still remember vividly the feelings I had at 16, thinking I was so mature and knew it all! :) Believe me, your life changes in so many ways from then to later. You have plenty of years to focus on a family. Babies are wonderful but also a LOT of work! So, do yourdelf a huge favor and take this as a sign that right now is not a good time...you are young--don't rush into growing up! Please feel free to come back any time!
God bless,
Tracey