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Re: need help and fast....

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Shellie

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Date Posted: 07/30/07 11:48pm
In reply to: stacey 's message, "need help and fast...." on 07/26/07 10:50pm

Hi Stacey,

I'm back. I emailed earlier today with some questions. I thought that I might be able to help you better if I had more information to go on. I was wondering how you know that this baby doesn't belong to your boyfriend. Are you 100% sure of that?

My above post includes the montage showing what a 9-week fetus looks like. Did you view it? Is that what you expected it to look like? I think women should always know what their baby looks like and how much development has taken place BEFORE they abort. This can be devastating news when it's learned AFTER the abortion.

When I talk to women who are considering abortion I want to say so much to them. It's hard to choose which aspects to cover. This is a big decision. Whether you choose to continue or abort, your life will never be the same. Having an abortion will not take away that the fact that you are already a mother. It will only make you a mother of a dead child. I know this sounds harsh. But it is also the reality. I don't want you to think that the abortion will make all your problems go away and you'll be this happy carefree person. It can be very hard to deal with the fact that you ended your baby's life. Being pro-choice doesn't mean you'll be okay with aborting.

It's normal to want out of an unplanned pregnancy. And I can see that your pregnancy would cause you some embarrassment and possibly problems with your boyfriend. But Stacey, aborting can also cause many problems! The boyfriend you're seeing may not be around in 10 years, but your baby will. If you choose to abort then that won't be the case. But I hope you don't miss out on knowing your little one! The baby that you don't want right now is the same baby you will grow to love with all your heart and soul! How can I be so sure? Because most mothers love their children---even the UNPLANNED/UNWANTED ones!

All the problems you're facing right now will not seem like such a big deal once you let yourself love your baby. Will your child hate you? For what, letting him/her live? You've made one mistake you feel bad about, why make another one that you'll regret and feel guilty about?

I have a lot to say so I'll post again at another time. In the meantime I'll be praying for you.

Take care,

Shellie

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Re: need help and fast....

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Tracey
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Date Posted: 08/ 1/07 4:15am

Stacey~
Hello and welcome! The ladies in the previous post have given all the advice I could ever offer. I just want to encourage you today to look into all your resources. You wouldn't be here now seeking help, if you weren't struggling with this gut-wrenching decision. But you are and I am happy that you are seeking the help and advice of others. Stacey, there are so many resources out there that can help and assist! We can help you with those resources if you'd like. I hope you got a chance to view the video clip Shellie sent. Please keep us posted and let us know how we can help! You will be in my prayers!
God bless,
Tracey