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Subject: Re: Dilema

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luka

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Date Posted: 09/10/07 5:33pm
In reply to: Amanda 's message, "Dilema" on 09/ 9/07 12:59am

I agree with all of the above. You can't begin to know now how you'll feel post abortion. It will change everything, either way if you do or you don't your life will not be the same. Just think long and hard before you decide. I have had an abortion so i know what i am talking about here. You can be a sure as hell you don't want to be pregnant for whatever reason and be certain that having an abortion is whats best. I have walked into one of those clinics teling myself things like that but i didn't leave there feeling good or right or that what i did was best. I walked out of there furious at myself at the babys father and at the world. The regret was searing, i'm serious, it's heartbreaking and not something that really ever leaves you. You definately feel different afterwards but it's not good :( You realise the reality that you just ended the life of your own baby. Please think about it. Your folks will most likely come around. I've seen it happen time and again. Your folks probably think they are excersing a form of tough love making you feel like you have no support will push into not having a baby at this inconveinient time. Naturally your parents only want to see you have a baby when the time is right after college ect. But the reality of the situation is this baby is here now. No amount of denial can change that. You have to be strong. If you decide to keep your baby they will learn to accept it and likely come to dote on their little grandchild. If they have any love for you at all then the odds are in favour of them comming around.
This is a complex situation and right now you and your boyfriend both have each other and alot of love between you-- this is so important, it's the most important factor.
My advice is to get as much information as possible about keeping your child. Entertain the idea, you owe yourself and you child that at the very least. Please don't rush to have an abortion without seriously thinking about it from all angles.

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