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Subject: Tara, please read...


Author:
Tracey
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Date Posted: 10/25/07 8:20am
In reply to: Tara 's message, "Re: Couldn't have - Can't have- What Pat Said" on 10/24/07 3:32am

Tara~
I have read and re-read your post...and as I read, I have to tell you, I felt both frustrated and saddened. Frustrated because it seems you have totally misunderstood our intentions here. Call us, "biased" all you want, but please know that we are trying desperately to help you see the whole picture. Our main goal is to present other alternatives to abortion not just because we are pro-life, but because we have seen and some have experienced what this does to the very core of a woman. And saddened because we are trying to save you from the guilt and heart-ache of choosing abortion. Abortion is forever..it robs a woman of an amazing gift...think about it--you were told that you were unable to have children and here you are, now pregnant! The timing stinks, but it IS what it IS! Are your circumstances different than others who abort? Of course they are--we're not arguing that at all! We sympathize so deeply with your situation. The thought of having this illness, meds involved, pregnancy...it's so over-whelming!! Our hearts ache for you. But if the doctors are telling you that the fetus won't be viable in continuing the pregnancy, then why not let nature take it's course?? It would spare YOU the guilt of knowing you chose to end the pregnancy..I would much rather live with the thought that I miscarried than I aborted my child. I would much rather know in my heart that I gave this little one EVERY chance at life than know I took away all possibilities. We share personal stories with you, not to guilt you, but to encourage you to see that there is HOPE!!! Tara, we're not claiming to be counselors here or doctors...we're not claiming to know it all--it's just heart breaking that you may make decision and never know if it was a mistake--we are trying to spare you the guilt of that. Call us irresponsible, but we really do want to help you, Tara. You came here heart-broken and we have tried our best to reach out to you. Tara, I believe it is no accident that you found us...I truly believe you have been guided to this site for help. Think about it--there are so many "pregnancy help" sites out there--probably millions and you found our little site in the middle of the night, "crying your eyes out" while your husband was asleep. Do you really think that was just a coincidence or some other higher power guiding it?? Tara, my prayer is that you will have peace with your decision, no matter WHAT it is. We don't judge you!! If you do decide to terminate, we will still be here for you. We have had many women come here and have still chose to abort and have still offered them love and support. Tara, I am praying for you, now, more than ever...I know you need it so desperately. My e-mail is always open if you ever just need to talk. I am praying for your husband as well--this must be very tough for him. If we have offended you, please know that is not our intentions. We love you, Tara and only wish you the very best!!
God bless,
Tracey

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Pat
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Date Posted: 10/25/07 12:22pm

Tara,

I'm sorry you feel that way about us. We are trying to be helpful, and we do NOT think such a decision is ever easy. Women agonize over it, and we know it.

I'm living proof that what doctors say is often dead wrong. It has happened so many times in my life, I have lost count.

If your baby is very badly damaged, he won't survive, but you won't have done anything to cut short the possibilities. From what you told us, if this doesn't happen, the baby will probably be fine, especially if you have the doctor keep track of your progesterone and make sure you have a normal level.

All we are saying is that you should follow your heart. If you are feeling guilt, pay attention. Don't do anything you will regret. I don't know if you have acted on your decision or not. Either way, we will be here for you. We love you and care about you.

You will continue to be in our prayers.

Hugs,
Pat



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