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Re: guilt and regret

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Shellie

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Date Posted: 04/ 7/07 11:08am
In reply to: jaye 's message, "guilt and regret" on 04/ 6/07 12:01pm

Hi Jaye,

I'm happy you posted here. I'm so sorry you've had to endure this pain. I recommend going to your local crisis pregnancy center. They offer free post-abortive counseling. It's not good to keep something so big, that's affecting you so deeply, to yourself. I hope you'll consider the post-abortion counseling.

Feel free to post here as often as you like. Don't keep these thoughts to yourself.

I'm praying for you!

Take care,

Shellie

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[> Subject: Re: guilt and regret

Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 04/ 8/07 9:10pm

Hi Jaye,

I noticed you said you lived in the Caribbean and there doesn't seem to be much in the way of crisis pregnancy centers that can offer post abortion counseling. I'm really sorry to hear that; it seems to me that if a town offers abortions they should also offer post abortion counseling because you're certainly not alone in needing it.

The internet can be a huge help. Of course you're always welcome here and I'm glad you found this site. Many of the women who post here have experienced an abortion and found feelings like yours afterwards. Another excellent website you can visit and hopefully experience some healing through is afterabortion.com

I know it doesn't minimize the pain and sadness you're experiencing over the loss of your baby's life, but for what it's worth I think you have a leg up on recovery and healing in that you're able to acknowledge that you have guilt and regrets. Please know that you CAN talk to God, Jaye. If you have asked His forgiveness, the next step is believing in faith that He keeps His promises. One of His promises is found in 1 John 1:9 of the Bible. It says:

"If you confess your sins, I will forgive you and cleanse you from all unrighteousness."

There are no conditions attached. God is just and holy, but thankfully through Christ He is also tender and merciful, quick to forgive to those who seek it.

It sounds as though you have. I see nothing in your post at least that indicates excuses or resentment, etc. You seem quite broken and contrite. The Bible also says: "A broken and contrite heart the Lord will not despise."

So if you have asked His forgiveness, please know that you are forgiven. You can express gratitude to Him by the future choices you make in your life, but you don't need these to 'earn' His forgiveness.

Having said that, I know that experiencing forgiveness won't take away some of the regret and loneliness. My thoughts and prayers are with you through that journey.

With Kindness,

Heather