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Re: need to make a decision and fast!

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Tracey

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Date Posted: 05/23/07 2:20pm
In reply to: missy 's message, "need to make a decision and fast!" on 05/22/07 9:30pm

Hi Missy and welcome to our boards! We're so glad you came! I know you have a thousand emotions running through you all at once. It's important that you take time to truly think things through..allow yourself time to take it all in. You are in shock right now and I truly want to commend you for seeking help and the advice of others.
After reading your post, I have to tell you, I think the very fact that you are struggling with what to do speaks volumes. It shows you are having doubts about having an abortion. And while I'm sure you're having doubts about continuing in this pregnancy as well, an abortion is forever. There's no turning back.
Missy, I want you to scroll up to the top of this page and look at my little ones just for a second. That's three of my four children. I now have a fourth little one, but just do me a favor and look at them for a second. They weren't in my plans at first, but I thank God every day for blessing me with them. I look at their sweet faces and melt when they wrap their arms around me and tell me that they love me. God had a purpose from the very start, far from what I ever had envisioned for my life. But I can honestly say that they are the best thing that has ever happened to me and I wouldn't change them for the world. Missy, the amazing thing about life is that it's full of surprises. Sometimes we have a set plan for our lives and when something comes along and seems to throw it off course, we react with utter shock or try to push it away. Have you ever thought that there is a reason this has happened. You, yourself said, "...will this child be my shining star?" If parents had "planned" their children, most of us wouldn't be here...me included. But thank God for those surprises! How boring life would be! I thank God for choosing me to be my children's mother and know that I am SO blessed to be a part of their lives.
Missy, we are here for you and promise to help support and guide you. If you need resources, we will find them in your area. Please let us know what we can do for you. We promise to help, advise, and support you in any way we can! In the meantime, you and your little one will be in my prayers! Missy, listen to your heart and you can't go wrong! We are here for you!
God bless,
Tracey

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Sharon
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Date Posted: 05/23/07 3:34pm

Hi, Missy.

I've known of many women who've regretted having had an abortion, but I've never known of a woman who regretted NOT having had an abortion. In other words, once your little one is in your arms, you will be incredibly grateful that you DIDN'T have an abortion and will hardly even be able to imagine the world without him or her in it.

You'd be amazed how developed your little one is already. His or her heart is already beating - it's not a BIG heart, of course, but the heart is actually beating at 18 days past the point of conception! Absolutely amazing. By 10 weeks, he or she already has ALL of his or her organs - they just need to grow in size - and he or she has brain waves and tiny fingers and toes. We tend to think of the developing embryo as a mass of cells or blob of tissue, but it's far more intricate and developed than that. (We all start small ;-)

I wonder why your daughter isn't excited about your pregnancy. Does she feel threatened? Embarrassed? You have two children right now. You might end up choosing an abortion, but that doesn't erase the fact that you were pregnant. It's your daughter's little sister or brother that is inside you right now.

It's not going to be easy being a single mom, but the rewards far outweigh the drawbacks.

Hang in there and keep us posted. (I'll say a prayer for you and your children ;-)

Sharon