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Re: Help PLEASE!

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Tracey (Lacey, we're here!!!)

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Date Posted: 07/12/07 3:36am
In reply to: Lacey 's message, "Help PLEASE!" on 07/11/07 6:21pm

Lacey~
Hello and welcome!!! I am SO glad you found us! You sound so torn and just plain stressed! This is an extremely difficult decision for you, I'm sure. But I want you to know it's not impossible for you to have this baby. I know the timing may seem bad, but it doesn't mean the whole situation is. It's great that you are seeking advice. SO many women rush out and abort and then come to us in total misery...they regret what they have done but can't undo what has already been done. Right now you just have the appointment set, but you do not have to go, Lacey. My suggestion is to cancel and really try and think things through...you can always re-schedule. Give yourself time to acclimate and really think things through. I know you're worried about school. There are MANY programs out their that will help mom's in college from financial help to daycare help to much more. I'm sure we can find you resources if you'll let us help. If you'd like to talk to a counselor or see what kind of aid is out there for young moms in college, we can help you do that. Just let us know your state and closest city. We can then send you a list of local centers in your area that can offer assistance and guidance. Several of the ladies here have put themselves through college, pregnant or with a child. You can do this Lacey! I was 23 when I found out I was pregnant with my son. He is now 5 1/2 and one of the biggest blessings of my life! *see pic above-and I went on to have 3 more!!! lol
Lacey, I am praying for you and your boyfriend today!!! I know this feels hopeless, but I promise you, it's not! We will help you and support you in any way we can! Of course, the ultimate choice is yours! Listen to your heart, Lacey and it won't steer you wrong!
God bless,
Tracey

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Re: Help PLEASE!

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Melanie
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Date Posted: 07/12/07 5:09am

Hi Lacey, A lot of people (parents included) don't really realize how deep an impact an abortion can have on your life. It sounds like you want one thing, but are being guided in another direction. You already know that you have a baby. That knowledge doesn't suddenly go away after the fact. NO matter what you do from here on, things will not be exactly as they were simply because the baby is gone. And that baby is your baby, not simply "a" baby. I know this has to be a really scary time for you.

As for education, there are programs out there for single moms to help finish their education. I know my neice (who isn't even a single mom) just qualified for grants to finish school and the fees were waived. What you might want to make an appointment for (instead of an abortion) are counselors at your school to help you make a plan that works with both you and the baby. As for adoption, that is still one possibility, although not an easy one. Your boyfriend still has a lot of time to think that one through if it's a direction you want to go.

You owe it to yourself to find out all of your options (and I don't mean abortion, adoption, raising your baby -- I mean what resources are available to you to accomplish your goals with/without a baby) before you do anything you may spend a lifetime regretting.

If I can help point you in the direction of any resources, please let me know and I will help in whatever way I can.

Take care,
Melanie