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[> Subject: Re: Disappointed
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Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 09/11/09 12:34am
Hello, Laquita,
I imagine the pregnancy is more real to the father now, and he's getting worried. Obviously, he's fairly young, though my husband became a dad when he was 22. He may just need time to process it. I can't tell you at this point what he will decide to do. If it's something you do, I recommend you pray about it, and pray for him. I know that doing it alone isn't easy, but you are stronger than you think, and it's not clear that you would be alone for all that long. Lots of women will find a man who is worthy of them after a year or two. The thing to do, I imagine, is figure out whether or not there is any possibility that he will be there for you in the future. If he still doesn't support you after the baby is born, it might be best to let him go and make yourself available for someone else. There are men out there who will cherish you both. They will raise your child as their own, and even formally adopt in some cases. We have women here who have had this experience.
In the meantime, there are organizations that can help you. If you are in the United States, you can find the closest one by going here: pregnancycenters.org. Let us know if you are someplace else. These organizations offer a lot of different kinds of help, including medical care, baby supplies, a place to live, and help with finances and jobs. They may be able to counsel you on how best to react to the father to gain his support. Take one day at a time. We will be here for you every step of the way.
Take care of your little one.
Hugs,
Pat
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