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Date Posted: 18:09:57 02/12/05 Sat
Author: tammy
Subject: Re: Want to help a hurting friend...
In reply to: A caring friend 's message, "Want to help a hurting friend..." on 20:01:33 07/25/04 Sun

Hi...i lost twins twelve years ago when they were born..too sick to stay with us...honestly ...it doesn't ever end..the grief i feel today is as strong as it was then..if not more since i have been through so much time...
there is a different way i look at things now and this may be considered a different level of grief, im not crying everyday now, i dont get angry and question why all the time now, i can smile when i see twins now, i am truly happy when another child is born that is not mine..because i have come to the realization that they were here for a reason..because they were here i am a better person for having known them...i just wanted to give you a different side to this...although shes hurting and you are too right now..the pain will subside enough for her to get through days that she will not cry or be upset like today..time does help..however never will take that pain really away..only help you learn to live with it...take care

tammy

>My friend lost her first baby 3 months ago. A freak
>birth defect, intestinal malrotation and volvulus,
>took him from her 3 days after his perfect entrance to
>this world. She is so sad and I know nothing can
>really ever change that, but I just wish so that
>something I say or do will help. She is questioning
>her and her husbands choice to remove life support
>and I know it's tearing her up inside. But they made
>the right choice-he had no intestine left. My friend
>is such a giving, caring person, and I just don't
>understand why this happened to her-I hurt too. I
>just wish Noah was with us all, here. Is there
>anything I can do to help her pain, does it ever get
>better? Thanks.

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