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Subject: Re: New and lost

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Date Posted: 06:13:28 10/11/03 Sat
In reply to: 's message, "New and lost" on 10:53:49 10/08/03 Wed

I am sitting here reading all I can about BPD. I believe my wife has it and I'm about to go home to discuss the situation with her. It won't be easy, I'm really trying to avoid a divorce.

In my case, she has episodes of extreme anger. Both at me and my children...thankfully there is no physical only verbal abuse. This is in addition to her feelings of no self worth and loneliness.

Not knowing your specific situation, I can tell you this...I can generally tell when she is having a BPD episode (if you want to call it that). She starts becoming frustrated with every little issue and over several hours it builds to an explosion.

Again, I don't know if you have outbursts of anger but your partner probably can sense when your having problems. Work out a plan with her on what to do. You must understand you will likely have to accept it when she says she is concerned your starting to disconnect or whatever you want to call it. This will likely be hard for you because to you your feelings will be very real.

-Tell her that you love her.
-Tell her that the things you may say or do are not things you mean or want to do.
-She should tell you that you are not alone
-She should tell you how important you are

Good Luck. The fact you realize your problem gives you a big edge.

>My partner and I just realized that I may have BPD.
>Any advice for either of us on how to handle this? I
>am seeking counseling, although the cost is
>astronomical because I have very limiting insurance.
>What can I do for her besides try to make myself
>better? This is the first person I have ever truly
>been in love with and I don't want to lose her because
>of this... Any advice is WELCOMED!!!

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Re: New and lost	Rebecca	11:08:26 11/18/03 Tue