Re: Assignment 5 -- Life-span Human Development

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Subject: Re: Assignment 5

Author:
Jennifer Williams

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Date Posted: 08:04:53 07/08/10 Thu
In reply to: Jennifer de Wit 's message, "Re: Assignment 5" on 20:56:25 07/06/10 Tue

>I was the youngest of three children and was raised in
>a home with both parents. My mom stayed home until I
>was in the third grade. This was her choice. My
>parents not only shared all of the responsibilities, I
>would say my mother was extremely fortunate. My dad
>liked to take care of all of us in every way and he
>did most of the chores except cooking and ironing.
>Basically he did what he enjoyed and my mom did what
>she enjoyed. It didn't hurt that he was also a little
>obsessive-compulsive and liked to have everything tidy.

>
>I feel a little guilty reading everyone's posts. My
>brothers and I were assigned dish washing or dish
>drying duties (we didn't have a dishwasher). We didn't
>have any other chores. I had friends who had to help
>clean their houses and that puzzled me because I
>thought that only parents did that.
>
>I always felt that we were given the message that
>chores get done by the people who want to do them or
>who can do them the best.
>
>Both of my brothers emulated my dad and participate
>fully in household and child rearing responsibilities.
> One of my brothers stayed home to raise his daughter
>while his wife went back to work. He was the better
>housekeeper and cook and adored being a full-time dad.
>
>I stayed home for many years because I wanted to be
>the one to raise my kids. Because I was home, I did
>most of the indoor household jobs. Now that I'm
>working my husband and I share them. The only problem
>is that we have different standards about certain
>things, so our definitions of clean aren't necessarily
>the same.
>
>Traditional female chores Traditional male
>chores
>cooking(Mom)
>cleaning (Mom & Dad)
>laundry(Dad)
>taking care of children(Mom & Dad)
>shop (Dad)
>
>Traditional male chores
>mowing (Dad)
>raking (Dad)
>washing the car (Dad)
>fix broken things (Dad)

I think it's funny that you brought up the idea of people having different standards of clean. My household growing up was very similar to yours, where everyone did the chores they liked or were good at. Unfortunately, my mother was 'better' at almost everything. There were times when I would see her cooking dinner at the end of the day and see how tired she was and I would get really frustrated with my dad for not helping out. As I got older though, I noticed that every single time my siblings and I or my father would try to help out by doing something around the house...my mom could come by a half an hour after we were done and re-do the chore. It had been done successfully..it just hadn't been done her way. I no longer felt sorry for her after this realization. I am thankful for everything she does, but I understand now that my dad kind of gave up on trying to help because she was so particular about what clean really was. I am similar to my mother now that I am an adult. I don't re-do chores my husband tries to take care of but I am specific in how I want things done and I prefer to do them myself most of the time.

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