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Subject: Re: Not sure......are they using again?


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Heather
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Date Posted: 13:22:06 11/08/07 Thu
In reply to: Tiff 's message, "Re: Not sure......are they using again?" on 05:42:31 11/08/07 Thu

There is really no way you can help. He has to hit his own personal rock bottom that no one knows what it is or when it will happen. As for your niece and her mom, well becky will need to learn about addiction to understand how she ended up dealing with your brother. She is obviously naive to addiction as I was a few years ago until I found this post. The baby is the innocent party so that is real sad that you feel helpless to her. I know how that is.

And just know that an addict will always take whatever they can and use it against you as if to blame you for what they are really doing. Trying to point the finger in the other direction so that it is you that starts feeling like shit. You aren't doing anything wrong and have no reason to justify your pain meds or post pardum meds. He is the problem and it will be better if you try to stay out of it as much as you can. Addicts are manipulators and liars and they are sick. It will only make you sick. I am sure Becku probably already feels sick about this but needs to figure out what is really going on. I'm sure he has her thinking it's her...or keeps apologizing for his radical behaviour along with broken promises to change. Gets us everytime until we learn the cycles of an addict. Print the post "Helpful Tips" for her and yourself and maybe your brother too. Tell her to read it everyday....not joking, everyday she will learn something new and that will lead her to take the right steps hopefully. You read it everyday too.
Good luck and take care

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Re: Not sure......are they using again?Shari19:28:07 11/08/07 Thu
    Re: Not sure......are they using again?Heather11:47:11 11/09/07 Fri


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