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Date Posted: 15:32:52 06/28/04 Mon
When I've had problems of this sort, I've asked my boss to go out to coffee and talk. I would sit down before hand and organize my thoughts so I could present my feelings in a calm, non-accusatory manner.
You should ask yourself what you want to accomplish. Is it that you want more money for not agreed upon cleaning up? More appreciation? Not to do it at all? What? So when you talk, you will know what the goal is.
>I have been a nanny for a while, but after reading
>some of the Q&A on this board, I figured I'd ask some
>questions just to clarify how I am feeling at my
>current position.
>
>When I first began, it was established that I would
>only be required to do 2 things besides taking care of
>the children - 1) THEIR laundry if it started to pile
>up 2) empty the dishwasher in the morning if the
>mother had not yet done it.
>
>It was assumed by me that it is my job to also 1)
>clean up after any of the children's meals - and -
>2)make sure that anything the kids messed while I was
>there went back where it was when I got there.
>
>This has now spiralled out of control. When I first
>began, I saw that the house was ALWAYS a shambles when
>I got there and in order to keep myself sane during
>the day, I tidied up when the kids were sleeping or at
>school or whenever I had time. Well, NOW, everything
>is LEFT for me from the night before to clean - dishes
>are in the sink when I get there in the morning, the
>house is a complete mess, the dishwasher is never
>empty, and the kids' laundry is now completely my job
>and needs to be done every other day. If she comes
>home for lunch, she leaves all of her dishes in the
>sink. Anything else she used for breakfast or lunch -
>including milk and food - is left out for me to PICK
>UP AFTER HER AS WELL. All of the things the kids used
>from the night before is left for me to clean. On a
>Monday, I am expected to clean everything from the
>weekend - including putting away grill stuff from
>their Sunday dinners.
>
>Is this normal? I feel completely taken advantage of.
> I know it's kinda my fault because I tidied up in the
>beginning, but now I am feeling like it is NOT my job
>and was never agreed upon. Is it wrong for me to feel
>this way? I feel more like a housekeeper than a nanny.
> Please let me know if I am over-reacting.
>
>Thanks,
>j
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