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Subject: Re: time out refusal

Author:
Mattie

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Date Posted: 11:48:37 05/06/06 Sat

AKK!! Don't call mom!! Then you have no credability of your own! If the child refuses to go to her room, find another consequence! She won't go to her room? Fine, then she won't be gong to Suzie's house later, or she won't be watching her favorite after school show. At 7 she can also understand longer term consequences, something 2 days away can be cancelled. Also, pick your battles!! "Parenting with Love and Logic" is one of the BEST parenting books I have EVER read! While I don't agree with EVERYTHING it says, I do love using natural consequences. It's so much simpler than some complex discipline system. Here's one way I might handle the not going to the room situation.
"Jane, you aren't following my instructions. If I can't trust you to follow my instructions the first time, it will be unsafe for us to go to the zoo on friday. It is a big place and if you don't listen to me you could get lost or something worse. I will give you one more chance to show me that you can do it, but if you can't follow my instructions, we can't go to the zoo." And then be SURE to follow through!! You have to do what you say you will or there is no reason for them to listen.

>i am looking for advice for a fellow nanny having
>trouble with a 7 yr. old. She is younger, and may not
>be firm enough, but she is having trouble disciplining
>the child. She refuses to go to timeout or to stay in
>her room when she does get into trouble. she finally
>had to resort to calling mother at work and she then
>came home to handle the discipline. does anyone have
>any suggestions i could share with her?

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