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Subject: Re: Thinking About Quitting my job (Advice please...)

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Amy

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Date Posted: 10:59:12 06/06/03 Fri
In reply to: Amy 's message, "Thinking About Quitting my job (Advice please...)" on 15:58:36 06/05/03 Thu

I talked to her today. The thing is I tend to not be very good at standing up for myself. Also, the way she explained it today seemed logical. I mean she said she wants things clean and neat for the kids. Kids learn by example and if they see clutter they will think they don't have to take care of it either. Also she said keeping things clean is for their health. Because kids touch everything. I mean it does make sense. But once I came back to my room (the boys are napping) I still felt like she's being obsessive about the cleaning. A little toothpaste in the sink has nothing to do with their health. And when I shower has nothing to do with any of that. Mainly she discussed the apartment with me, when I get in there. Most of it was general and I have no problem with that stuff. It's just that I feel she is going way too into detail. Like she talked to me about when they have peas for lunch. Sometimes you can't find them when the kids drop them because they blend into the carpet. She asked me to keep a closer eye. I literally go down on my hands and knees looking for them. Still not good enough for her! And she has admitted to sometimes not finding them for day�

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Author:
Kate
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Date Posted: 14:01:48 06/06/03 Fri

Umm, probably a stupid question but why are they eating peas on carpet? If they are young enough to not be able to get their food in their mouths then why aren't they fed someplace like the kitchen?

>I talked to her today. The thing is I tend to not be
>very good at standing up for myself. Also, the way she
>explained it today seemed logical. I mean she said she
>wants things clean and neat for the kids. Kids learn
>by example and if they see clutter they will think
>they don't have to take care of it either. Also she
>said keeping things clean is for their health. Because
>kids touch everything. I mean it does make sense. But
>once I came back to my room (the boys are napping) I
>still felt like she's being obsessive about the
>cleaning. A little toothpaste in the sink has nothing
>to do with their health. And when I shower has nothing
>to do with any of that. Mainly she discussed the
>apartment with me, when I get in there. Most of it was
>general and I have no problem with that stuff. It's
>just that I feel she is going way too into detail.
>Like she talked to me about when they have peas for
>lunch. Sometimes you can't find them when the kids
>drop them because they blend into the carpet. She
>asked me to keep a closer eye. I literally go down on
>my hands and knees looking for them. Still not good
>enough for her! And she has admitted to sometimes not
>finding them for day�

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Author: Amy [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 07:23:54 06/16/03 Mon They have carpet under their table they eat meals at. They have a kitchenette and then a dining room. Amy [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

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tonya
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Date Posted: 18:02:24 07/17/03 Thu

Amy,
get out of there! Not only is she neurotic, but she is now managing to convince you that she is right. And she is dead wrong!!!!!!! And, if you are going to stay in the nanny field, you are going to have to learn to stand up for yourself. There is no one else who will do it for you! I highly recommend attending the NAN conference in Chicago at the end of Sept! Being around so many professional nannies will help you understand so much more and how badly you are being treated. And I am speaking on contract negotiations. I hope you don't mind, I won't use names, but I am going to use your situation as an example if you don't mind.
Tonya

>They have carpet under their table they eat meals at.
>They have a kitchenette and then a dining room.
>Amy

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