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Jacqueline
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Date Posted: 08:02:23 11/28/06 Tue
In reply to:
Eric
's message, "Post Abortion" on 03:06:38 11/25/06 Sat
Dear Eric,
I'm sorry to tell you that a majority of romantic relationships fail after an abortion. I wish I could give you good news and say that things return to normal after a while, but the majority do not.
Your girlfriend is grieving the loss of her baby. You are the only thing that connects her to her child which is while she's still with you. However, she's angry and resentful because she's hurting deeply. She blames you because you got her pregnant and she doesn't percieve that you're hurting the same way she is (and frankly, you can't hurt the same way she is. She has physical pain and the abuse of going through an invasive surgery on her privatest of parts). Beyond the bleeding and emotional pain, there are hormonal changes, shame and abuse that come with having an abortion.
Another thing to consider is that as much as you claim you made this decision "together", she is the one that suffers most. Some women abort to save relationships or please their partner and later harbor deep anger for doing so. Many women wish their partner had fought harder for them both (they and the baby). Had you offered to take responsibility and care for her and your baby rather than so quickly agreeing that she should get rid of it, she might have made a healthier, happier choice. Perhaps she's dealing with that anger also.
Those relationships that survive are the ones that get healing and forgiveness together. I suggest you find a post-abortive group at a Pregnancy Resource Center. Http://www.pregnancycenters.org. They can help.
Good luck,
Jacqueline
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