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Date Posted: 21:13:14 02/27/04 Fri
Author: Ginhoshi
Subject: Re: GOTH GUYS
In reply to: Pebz 's message, "Re: GOTH GUYS" on 17:11:01 01/27/03 Mon

I don't know what amuses me more about this thread, the fact that people are placing such limitations on the Gothic sub-culture and it's people or the generalizations.

A Goth can be a Goth without you even knowing it, some people are Gothic and don't even realize it themselves. It's not something you become, it's something you just ARE. Nor is it limited to just tacky "robes", leather, spikes and all other things that are stereotypically Goth. It's a sub-culture people, it changes and grows and has just as much diversity as a full-blown culture.

Many MANY Goth guys like Gothic girls and date them and marry them, I'm what one would call Gothic and my husband is also a Goth and we are very happily married, as well as hundreds of our friends that also date within the sub-culture, not a single one of them has dated anyone that was "preppy" or a "townie" or of that sort. The reason for this is because only a Goth can TRULY and HONESTLY understand the ways of another Goth, you have to be part of something to truly understand it, it's like someone reading a chapter on China and saying they fully understand the Chinese culture...it just isn't possible. Why would you want to be with someone that doesn't understand you?

One of my best friends is what one would call a Hot Goth Guy, he gets emails from girls throwing themselves at him all the time, but guess what, no matter how pretty, no matter how sweet, he's not interested, because they would have absolutely nothing in common, and the fact that he feels a woman should have more respect for herself not to advertise herself like an object, or try to sway him with flattery.

I think the conceptions are a bit backwards here, it's usually the quote, unquote normal people that are attracted to Goths, mainly due to all the misconceptions and stereotypes, people think we're dark and wild in the bedroom, that we're into things kinky and bizarre and they desire that, a lot of people do, but here's the thing, there are a lot of "normal" types that are far more kinky and dark and "dangerous" than Goths. Though I must say my favourite assumption about Goths that I've heard in my years in the sub-culture is that we're all necrophiliacs...lol.

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Re: GOTH GUYS -- alyssa, 06:21:15 07/22/05 Fri