Date Posted:06:21:15 07/22/05 Fri Author: alyssa Subject: Re: GOTH GUYS In reply to:
Ginhoshi
's message, "Re: GOTH GUYS" on 21:13:14 02/27/04 Fri
>I don't know what amuses me more about this thread,
>the fact that people are placing such limitations on
>the Gothic sub-culture and it's people or the
>generalizations.
>
>A Goth can be a Goth without you even knowing it, some
>people are Gothic and don't even realize it
>themselves. It's not something you become, it's
>something you just ARE. Nor is it limited to just
>tacky "robes", leather, spikes and all other things
>that are stereotypically Goth. It's a sub-culture
>people, it changes and grows and has just as much
>diversity as a full-blown culture.
>
>Many MANY Goth guys like Gothic girls and date them
>and marry them, I'm what one would call Gothic and my
>husband is also a Goth and we are very happily
>married, as well as hundreds of our friends that also
>date within the sub-culture, not a single one of them
>has dated anyone that was "preppy" or a "townie" or of
>that sort. The reason for this is because only a Goth
>can TRULY and HONESTLY understand the ways of another
>Goth, you have to be part of something to truly
>understand it, it's like someone reading a chapter on
>China and saying they fully understand the Chinese
>culture...it just isn't possible. Why would you want
>to be with someone that doesn't understand you?
>
>One of my best friends is what one would call a Hot
>Goth Guy, he gets emails from girls throwing
>themselves at him all the time, but guess what, no
>matter how pretty, no matter how sweet, he's not
>interested, because they would have absolutely nothing
>in common, and the fact that he feels a woman should
>have more respect for herself not to advertise herself
>like an object, or try to sway him with flattery.
>
>I think the conceptions are a bit backwards here, it's
>usually the quote, unquote normal people that are
>attracted to Goths, mainly due to all the
>misconceptions and stereotypes, people think we're
>dark and wild in the bedroom, that we're into things
>kinky and bizarre and they desire that, a lot of
>people do, but here's the thing, there are a lot of
>"normal" types that are far more kinky and dark and
>"dangerous" than Goths. Though I must say my
>favourite assumption about Goths that I've heard in my
>years in the sub-culture is that we're all
>necrophiliacs...lol.
