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Date Posted: 02:56:19 08/16/02 Fri
Author: Andrew Tegala
Subject: Heart Broken

I have been in a relationship with a beautiful girl (Miss L) for 3 years. It was a week to go, before it would have been 3 years and 6 months.

I went to see her on Tuesday (5th Aug) and she said she had fallen out of love with me. I don't know what to do. I am devastated and confused. I know that we hadn't seen much of each other recently but I was making an effort to change that. She is off on holiday tomorrow (Monday 12th) and I am hoping that the following happens.



She will see other couples on holiday and miss me. More importantly she will miss what we had and want to get back with me when she gets back.

Of course, the fool that I am, I have taken the rejection badly and last night, tried to meet up. I was told that I aws crowding her and that she needed space. I have apologised for my actions, and told her to forget all about it. I told her to enjoy her holiday, have a great time and that I would see her afterwards.

What should I do? I now have around 20 days to build up my self-esteem. I am busy, so will not be sitting at home moping. I have friends that listen to me and cheer me up when I go and see them.

Has anyone, been in a similar situation? How did it work out for you? Do I have a good chance of winning her back? How should I approach her when she gets back from holiday? Methods which will lead me to success?

This is hurting me very badly, as I am quite lonely and isolated at the moment. Your advice would be much appreciated!

You know when you have that feeling deep inside that this special someone, is the ONE. The one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Well this is how I feel for this young lady!

Well we are both 20 years old and we got together at during our first year at college, back in 1999. We have been through a lot together. We go to different universities in the same city. While at University our relationship took a big leap, and we were practically living together. Although, of course we had our space when we needed it.

It is really hard. For both of us, this is our first serious relationship and although I understand that you should have new experiences with new people. I believe deep down inside that even she knows that what we have (had) she will never be able to have with someone else. Of course, I wouldn't want a relationship with someone who didn't love me back, but I am sure she does.

I am trying to keep myself busy, but most of my friends are either very far from my home town or on holiday. I am in the third year of my degree, which involves a sandwich placement.

The other thing is, when I went to see her, on Tuesday last week. I sensed that this was really the end because she talked about giving all my stuff (clothes and little things) back to me and arranging this. Plus, also the diamond ring which I had bought for her on our first Christmas together (quite expensive). Well she has degraded it to a 'friendship' ring, but she is still going to wear it so that means that she still has me in her heart. Plus, she also said that she would keep a photograph of me. She says that she is to blame for the relationship going off the rails. She has fallen out of love with me. Now, come on, after 3 and half years, you can't simply fall out of love with someone. I know that she needs time to think, space, to relax and that hopefully she will come back.

I thought the picture was perfect. I had just bought a new car, new job, money and my beautiful girlfriend. I was at a point in my life where I could say, "I've made it! I've achieved!"

I am a true gentleman, and although I will meet girls no problem. I don't want to take it any further. Although L is on holiday, I know that she will too not 'pull' any blokes because that will confuse her further. Although she will meet new ladz, she is on holiday with her family, not her friends.

Just to keep you updated on the situation and on my progress.
Call one of my friends from Uni, who is quite close to Laura. We chatted for about 30 minutes, and I must say I felt a lot better after being on the phone and speaking.

I woke up this morning, not feeling the great. But I switched on my phone and to my delight, L has sent me text at 23:57 just before she was about to board the plane. It read:

"Have a good 2 weeks. See you when I get back :0)"

So... what does this mean? She is obviously missing me, thinking about me! Any advice, whether to forget it or to persue would be greatly appreciated.

How should I approach contacting her when she gets back? I don't want to be in her face straight away... and although I would like to send flowers and stuff, I think it would best not to.

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