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Date Posted: 19:19:49 04/13/08 Sun
Author: Caitlin
Subject: Attractive Confidence

I found another great quote by Girard in "Things Hidden".

"In a world that is utterly devoid of objective criteria, desired are devoted entirely to mimetism; everyone has to try to convert to his own benefit mimetism that is still seeking to point to fix on which it will always find by references to other desires. So each person must feign the most impressive narcissism, must advertise as subtly as he can the desire that he experiences for himself, so that he can compel others to imitate this appetizing desire" (371).

I think this is a great example of why we so commonly find self-confidence so attractive. Our confidence in ourselves is almost a way of using narcissism to our benefit. By being happy in the desire of ourselves (both expressed in narcissism AND confidence) we are able to attract others to us. I'm wondering what would happen if in our society we actually did have those objective criteria that Girard mentions.

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