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Date Posted: 09:45:10 11/06/04 Sat
Author: Jan
Subject: Avoiding Problems with good relationships
In reply to: Joe 's message, "Getting my children married" on 20:18:43 10/24/04 Sun

Joe,
How funny I was thinking the same thing about my own kids. One thing I heard on a Christian Radio program once years back is... Make sure you get to know your Children very well in their youth. If your child brings home a friend who has strange world views that are a bad influnce disucss these problems or issues upfront, honestly and compassionatly (with your child). These discussions (whether because of friends or TV watching or anything that brings them up) will develop a relationship with your child. Later when they start reaching the dating age and come to you about when is it appropriate to date etc... You and your children will be able to discuss what's appropriate in your house. If you child insist or seems to want to date someone in high school. Don't just say no, dicuss it. You have the authority so even if they do date, get into that boy or girls live as well. Make them spend time in your house, under your rules. Take them out bowling with the family. The family is the one dating the stranger especially the younger the child is. I think we need to allow dating in high school because you can instill what is right and what is wrong. Absolutly in still in them that sex before marriage is wrong. And that they should not follow their raging hormones no matter what. Discuss what dating really is, getting to know someone. The intimacy of sex should be reserved for your spouse. Later when they go off to college they will not be making terrible decisions/mistakes (hopefully you've instilled in them what is appropriate). Mostly like they will be looking for what you look for in someone who may join the family later.

Thankfully my son is not interested in girls yet, he says the only woman he loves is his mother. Not even his sister but I know that will change and we bring up the fact it is not wrong to like girls. My daughter on the other hand constantly ask me who she is going to get to marry (she's only 5). With her I'm just trying to teach her to be independent of marriage yet not completely making her anti-marriage either.

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Re: Getting my children married -- ts, 10:39:01 11/06/04 Sat