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Subject: Re: Signs of a healthy relationship

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Lindsey

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Date Posted: 11/10/04 4:13:49pm
In reply to: Aubrey 's message, "Signs of a healthy relationship" on 10/30/04 11:16:52am

>What are some of the signs of a healthy relationship?

I think that some signs of a healthy relationship are comfort, communication, and feelings.
Comfort I think is one of the most important in a relationship. If you aren't comfortable with your bf/gf, fiance, or spouse, then why be with them at all. If you aren't allowing yourself to be you and your portraying somebody you really aren't, then you shouldn't be with that certain somebody(c/s). Why pretend when the real you is so much better than putting on a show. And if you are comfortable with the c/s you can talk to them about problems or issues.
Communication is another important factor in a relationship. Being able to talk with the c/s kind of goes hand in hand with comfort. Being able to talk about things without the fear of him/her looking down upon you or the fear of him/her beating you up or even making fun of you.
The last key is feelings. You are the only person in the world that knows you best. You need to know the difference between true-love, just a fling, just for show, or possibly something else. You also need to talk with your c/s to see what they feel and how far he/she might want to go, or might not want to go.
There are many other things that a realationship needs but I feel that those are a few of the most important.

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Aubrey
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Date Posted: 11/13/04 9:30:00am

>>What are some of the signs of a healthy relationship?
>
> I think that some signs of a healthy relationship
>are comfort, communication, and feelings.
> Comfort I think is one of the most important in a
>relationship. If you aren't comfortable with your
>bf/gf, fiance, or spouse, then why be with them at
>all. If you aren't allowing yourself to be you and
>your portraying somebody you really aren't, then you
>shouldn't be with that certain somebody(c/s). Why
>pretend when the real you is so much better than
>putting on a show. And if you are comfortable with
>the c/s you can talk to them about problems or issues.
> Communication is another important factor in a
>relationship. Being able to talk with the c/s kind of
>goes hand in hand with comfort. Being able to talk
>about things without the fear of him/her looking down
>upon you or the fear of him/her beating you up or even
>making fun of you.
> The last key is feelings. You are the only person
>in the world that knows you best. You need to know
>the difference between true-love, just a fling, just
>for show, or possibly something else. You also need
>to talk with your c/s to see what they feel and how
>far he/she might want to go, or might not want to go.
> There are many other things that a realationship
>needs but I feel that those are a few of the most
>important.

Lindsey,

Great response! Yes, feeling comfort, communication and feelings are all very important in a relationship! What are some specific examples of how someone might communicate to you in a HEALTHY way?