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Date Posted: 22:06:50 02/28/06 Tue
Author: 23
Subject: Re: love gone wrong
In reply to: chrys 's message, "love gone wrong" on 20:33:01 02/28/06 Tue

Be honest.

Tell him everything you just told us.

You obviously don't want to just keep it light, or you wouldn't care this much. You're a terribly strong person, Chrys, stop trying to protect yourself. Put it out there. If you get hurt, you get hurt. You'll get over it in time, and you'll be a better person for having gone through it.

You know that part of you that's ready to just throw in the towel? The part that feels a little relief thinking about blowing it all off and moving on? That's cowardice. That's the relief that comes from walking away from something difficult. That relief will be short-lived and will quickly be replaced by regret.

Like I told chico, don't play the games. The games are a filter between you and him. They are making it impossible for you to actually get to know each other. The only you that he knows is the tiny little piece of you that you've let him see.

Maybe he's more perceptive than you give him credit for. Maybe he's distancing himself from you a bit because he can sense how much you're holding back. Maybe he was hurt that you didn't hug him when he cried. Maybe he's felt like he's pushing things too quickly and he's backing off because he feels your reluctance.

I don't know. I can only speculate, just like you.

You need to talk to him, and be honest. Who knows, amazing things may come of it.

(happiness)

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[> Re: love gone wrong -- chico781, 23:42:03 02/28/06 Tue [1]

From my own experience, I know that it is very hard to just let go and open up to a person because we're afraid of getting hurt but once we do, we can experience so much more. With the sex thing, it seems like to me that you became more important to him than just someone to have sex with. By what you have told us, it seems like he wanted something more than that. I think that you should put it out on the table for him. Open up to him and let him see the whole you and not just the parts you show everyone else.

I wish you the best of luck. I honestly think that he does have feelings for you and I think that you guys can work it out. It's ok to be inexperienced. I know that I made a lot of mistakes in my own relationship but the important thing is trying to grow from them. I hope you can do that.

Sergio

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