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Date Posted: 09:16:25 11/08/06 Wed
Author: Julia Onodera
Subject: Being with the best friend's girlfriend

"If the Cat's Away, Should Mice Play?"

Question:

A few months ago, I went to a party at a friends house. A girl I knew from school was there, and I bought her a stuffed animal which I gave to her at the party. I liked her, but I was just being nice, I wasn't looking for anything from her. She was flirting with me at the party, but I was with someone else so I could not respond to her. Later on that night, she "hooked up" with another guy who later became my best friend. I have since broken up with this other girl, and I have discussed my feelings with the girl who I gave the animal to. We are best friends now, but I want something more. She would want it to, if she wasn't with my other best friend. I don't know if it would work or not, but I want the oppertunity to find out. So now her boyfriend is away for the summer, but I don't know if I should just lie low or try to start something with her. What should I do? I can't keep wondering about what "could be" with her.

Male, Age 16

First of all, you should talk to the girl to find out how she feels. If you both really want to be together you should know that it could be the end of the friendship with your best friend, because he may not accept this situation. So, if you think your feelings worth the risk of losing a friendship, then you should go for it. However, I�m not saying that you should lie to your friend! Wait until he comes back before doing anything, and don�t do anything before they break up. You and the girl should be as honest as possible, without hurting your best friend�s feelings. If you do that, maybe it�s possible to keep your friendship. I have seen that happen before actually, two best friends in love with the same girl. The girl broke up with one of them and started dating the other. They were always very honest and didn�t do anything behind the back of each other, so they are best friends until nowadays. I hope that happens to you too, good luck!

J�lia M.

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Re: Being with the best friend's girlfriend -- Chelsea Kosmala, 10:32:49 11/08/06 Wed
Re: Being with the best friend's girlfriend -- Steve Tharrett, 21:12:11 11/13/06 Mon