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Date Posted: 17:32:24 06/25/09 Thu
Author: Johnny Reb
Subject: Re: I don't know why, but...
In reply to: Samantha 's message, "Re: I don't know why, but..." on 14:34:23 06/16/09 Tue

>Actually, I don't know, maybe the fact that he has
>very little education.. (he doesn't speak any English,
>and I think in English)
>As I said, we do not have much in common. He doesn't
>like the cinema, but I like that he goes with me
>because I like it. Another thing is that although he
>is 12 years younger than I am, but he has a very
>traditional thinking with regards to women and similar
>things..

In my experience, loving a partner has to do with 3 things, brain, heart, genitals. (Don't chuckle now, all you other pm refugees LOL)

Language is a matter of the brain and has something to do with the heart, too. If he lives in your country, he should learn your language (and definitely not only for you). If you live in his country, you should learn his language. Without verbal communication, an intellectual exchange is not possible.

It is nice of him if he accompanies you to the movies (what is so bad about enjoying a movie all on your own, btw?) if he is not interested in movies. But why does he do it then? Does he expect and/or get a reward for it?

If he has less formal education than you, this is a gap which can be bridged over time as you can get him interested in learning and gaining knowledge, so one day he will be on your level (or similar) of education.

Where I see the real problem is that he is part of a (foreign?) culture which has very different values compared to yours. Especially about the gender topic, this might be a gap which can never be bridged at all if is he is not willing to adjust to your (host) country's culture and values. In that case - hands off.

I wonder what it is that you have in common at all but I do not necessarily need to know.

Regards

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Re: I don't know why, but... -- Samantha, 17:26:11 06/28/09 Sun
- Re: I don't know why, but... -- Johnny Reb, 04:00:48 07/02/09 Thu