4. I don't think there are "appropriate" amounts of time for each stage of grief. People pass through them, or not, based on their own psychological make-up, their relationship with the person/pet who has died, the nature of the loss (sudden, expected, drawn-out etc). I do think grieving is not something that you do and then stop, whether it's grief over the death of a person, a pet or a dream. And how you heal and move on, without forgetting, is also very personal and situation dependent. -- Cindy's Cottage

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Date Posted: 18:47:36 10/17/07 Wed
Author: Carla
Subject: 4. I don't think there are "appropriate" amounts of time for each stage of grief. People pass through them, or not, based on their own psychological make-up, their relationship with the person/pet who has died, the nature of the loss (sudden, expected, drawn-out etc). I do think grieving is not something that you do and then stop, whether it's grief over the death of a person, a pet or a dream. And how you heal and move on, without forgetting, is also very personal and situation dependent.
In reply to: JaneH 's message, "Mermaid in a Bowl of Tears ~Chapter 69 � What Remains�" on 03:29:54 10/17/07 Wed

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69.4) The stages are not clearly defined for me. Most of the time I will reach a point where I can be comfortable again, but there are a few events from my past which feel raw even now, many years later. Whatever you experience is what's appropriate; it's different for everyone I think. What I find unusual is that I can usually hold it together during the crisis time, while everyone else is losing it. Then I fall apart later, when things are quiet again and everyone else has moved on. (NT) --

Elaine, 06:12:49 10/18/07 Thu

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