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Date Posted: 22:56:19 10/20/07 Sat
Author: Tracy ()
Subject: 3. First, that rift between Casey and Pamela was heartbreaking to go through. I think Pamela had to tell Casey in her own time. Unfortunately, it took a long time but I can understand why. I suppose it takes everyone varying lengths to get to that point and I suppose some never do. I know the idea is to spare your husband or wife pain, but I think a marriage dying and the after effects cause more pain than the 'secret'. I'm rambling, sorry. I would come clean and work on healing and if it's a true love, the healing will happen. I would trust and respect my husband and not decide something for him. He can decide how to react and whether he could handle knowing the 'secret'.
In reply to: Marilyn 's message, "Chapter 72 'Hard Man" on 16:51:54 10/20/07 Sat

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  • 3. I think you have to put yourself in the shoes of Pamela and her past here- Casey is all the family she has, she's been alone so long she's terrified of losing him and she knows how territorial he feels about her and how much he hated Love Hagerty. So I think she feels this is a case of he's better off not knowing, even though it really hurts her and bothers her to keep it from him. She'd rather carry the burden though than lose him altogether. It's perhaps not clear thinking, but it's instinctual and based on fear. (NT) -- celtgirl, 12:58:46 10/21/07 Sun
  • Actually, when I gave some honest thought to my own question...I could see myself handling the situation the same way Pamela did - I can see myself being so afraid of losing him that I would hold my tongue and suffer internally. (NT) -- Marilyn, 14:14:51 10/21/07 Sun
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