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>>>>>So, this is something I've wanted to write for a >>>while >>>>>now but I never really knew where to post it. I >>>really >>>>>didn't want to use Reddit, since that place can be >>>>>toxic af, with all the shaming and blaming that >goes >>>>>on there and the general condescending attitudes. I >>>>>don't know if this is exactly the right place or >not >>>>>but it seems close enough. >>>>> >>>>>First, some background. I am an only child, raised >>by >>>>>my dad. I've always been a bit socially awkward and >>>>>nerdy, not a tomboy but I also never fit in with >the >>>>>stuckup superficial girls who spend 5 hours doing >>>>>their makeup and causing drama and such. I never >>>>>dressed all fancy, but not sloppy either, just >>>normal, >>>>>and I was one of the few girls you'd find playing >>D&D >>>>>or card games with the nerds in school at lunch >>time, >>>>>that kind of thing. I've been told I'm cute, but I >>>>>know I'm no supermodel (and I don't want that kind >>of >>>>>attention anyway). My dad worked in IT, and being >>>>>nerdy myself I ended up getting a degree in >computer >>>>>science with a minor in English. I'm 28 now and >work >>>>>as a tech writer for a medium-sized company in a >>>small >>>>>Canadian city. I love my job and consider myself to >>>be >>>>>well-educated and intelligent. >>>>> >>>>>Now, my poor Dad. I love him dearly and he's an >>>>>amazing father who did his best, but he knew >nothing >>>>>about raising a girl or teaching me how to be a >>girl, >>>>>including proper female hygiene. I've learned most >>of >>>>>it on my own through trial and error, and if I'm >>>>>dating someone I try to keep myself presentable and >>>>>clean, but when I'm single I get lazy and fall back >>>on >>>>>my old habits (or lack thereof) from growing up. My >>>>>job allows me to work from home much of the time >>>>>(writing), which makes it even worse. I get really >>>>>lazy about things like showering, changing my >>>clothes, >>>>>wiping myself and generally keeping myself clean. >>>>>There have been times when I've literally just worn >>>>>the same pajamas all week long without even >>showering >>>>>if I didn't have to go out anywhere. >>>>> >>>>>So the disgusting details... I basically never wipe >>>>>when I pee, and when I poop I sometimes give a >quick >>>>>wipe to make sure there's nothing big hanging back >>>>>there and sometimes I don't bother at all. Most of >>my >>>>>underwear have stains even when they're clean, >>except >>>>>for a few sexier pieces that I only wear when I'm >>>>>seeing someone. I mostly wear basic plain but comfy >>>>>panties, cotton or nylon, and they get pretty dirty >>>>>after a couple days. Even most of my socks look >>dirty >>>>>even when they're washed. I do a lot of my work >>>>>sitting cross-legged on my bed or couch with my >>>laptop >>>>>in front of me, and in that position I can often >>>smell >>>>>myself (my butt, vajayjay, feet, or general body >>>>>smell). And, I actually kinda like that. It doesn't >>>>>turn me on or anything, I just find my own smell >>nice >>>>>and it makes me feel good, comfortable, at ease. >And >>>>>clothes you've worn for a couple days have loosened >>>up >>>>>and are worn-in, and all that together just feels >so >>>>>comfy and good. I do laundry about once every 1-2 >>>>>months, and wash my bed sheets maybe once a year >>>>>unless someone else is going to be in bed with me. >I >>>>>love the smell and feel of a well worn bed and >dirty >>>>>clothes. >>>>> >>>>>The way you get used to things as a kid is >sometimes >>>>>really hard to change as an adult, and I don't >>really >>>>>like change. I don't know what will happen when >>>>>someday I meet someone I'm interested in making a >>>life >>>>>together with. I suppose (hope) the right person >for >>>>>me will be understanding and accepting and I won't >>>>>have to hide or change my personal habits to >>>>>accommodate them. I like the way I live and I'm >>happy >>>>>to finally share my personal little secret. Thanks >>>for >>>>>reading! >>>>> >>>>>Amy >>>> >>>> >>>>Amy, thank you so much for posting this. I can >relate >>>>to a lot of what you wrote. I don't wipe, I've >hardly >>>>ever wiped and I have never paid particular >attention >>>>to general hygiene. I like it that way and I don't >>>>care. I am so glad to know there are other girls out >>>>there like me. >>> >>>Thanks for your kind words, Liz. One reason I've >>>wanted to share this is because with billions of >>>people in the world, I know there must be others out >>>there like me who don't think I'm gross or crazy, and >>>I've been looking for some validation. >>> >>>If you don't mind me asking, how do you deal with >>>hygiene when on your period? I do try to be more >clean >>>then, because I worry about infection. That's kind of >>>where I draw the line for myself, I don't really want >>>to get that nasty down there. Infections can be >>>actually gross and a real health risk. I use pads >>>because I really don't like tampons, but that does >>>increase the risk of infection if you're not clean. I >>>do shower more often on my period, and I use wet >wipes >>>when I change my pads just to be sure. I really don't >>>know what others do, because I've always felt too >>>embarrassed to ask an irl friend. >>> >>>Amy >> >>Hi Amy. Thanks for replying. So in contrast, my time >>of the month is something I'm a little bit obsessive >>about. I was later than most girls and I think it >>shocked me, so that is not part of my hygiene >>indifference. In fact the exact opposite. > >Hello, >I'm not usually one to post or comment but I feel like >this is one to comment on. There's an obsession for >cleanliness that seems a little out of hand. I >understand the need to clean after your body's natural >cycles or cleaning your hands after using the restroom >if you're handling food. But using hand sanitizer >constantly or showering two times a day is absolutely >ridiculous. Doing such actions can actually harm your >body's natural defenses against harmful bacteria and >viruses. >Now, I don't want to sound creepy but what you are >describing is okay for partners (male or female). If >you give the impression of being an ultra clean >sanitized freak, you can attract those types of people >to you and you can end up in a relationship with >someone who doesn't know the REAL you. What's so >refreshing about your post is that you are sharing who >you really are. You sound like a person who is smart >and understanding of her own body's natural rhythms. >You just happen to feel comfortable with not being a >clean freak. That's awesome! Be who you truly are and >you'll find someone who shares the same interests and >may even enjoy your neat little quark. Quarks are what >we all have. Cool little quarks. None of us are absent >of them. You just happened to share it with a room >full of people who understand or enjoy them! Good on >you! Keep being you. You're awesome and don't let some >clean freak hater deter you from who you really are! >Impressed, >Tim

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