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Subject: Re: Spanking of our Older Teens and College Students Author: Destiny [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 13:56:16 09/17/24 Tue In reply to: VoR 's message, "Re: Spanking of our Older Teens and College Students" on 18:51:56 09/09/24 Mon The point this person was making was that it was not the actual spanking which made the difference, but that families which spank tend to run a more disciplined structured household. While I am a believer in spanking, I know there are parents who have what he calls a "rod mentality" without ever once laying a hand across their child's bottom, and raise wonderful children. This is in contrast to the common result of modern permissive parenting. Destiny [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Spanking of our Older Teens and College Students Author: VoR [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 23:49:58 09/19/24 Thu "The failure to spank your children is not just a difference, but a symptom. People who won’t lay a hand or switch on their child's bare bottom embrace a completely different parenting philosophy than those who will." How is this a statement that allows for parents who do not physically punish their children to be effective disciplinarians? And then what is "rod mentality?" If it's not about laying a hand or switch on a "child's bare bottom," then why offer that lurid concept as its definition? Permissive is also a subjective term. What kinds of children do we want to raise? If we're just going to throw out examples we know in order to justify our opinions, I've known adults who were raised with a "rod mentality" who are unethical, bitter control freaks, and lack compassion for others. Bottom line, there are all kinds of people raised all kinds of ways, and there is no real evidence that "families which spank" are creating more wonderful children than those who don't. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]