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Subject: An explanation and an apology. Author: Thea [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 21:24:26 09/30/24 Mon In reply to: Emmie Sue 's message, "Thea" on 05:56:04 09/30/24 Mon Well, I owe you an apology and an explanation. While I maintain that you should pay more attention to boundaries, my reaction was disproportionate and unfair. A few months ago I mentioned how the reason I hadn't been around as much in a while was because I havr had a lot going on this year. I think you asked more about it and I never gave specifics. I had been intending on keeping this part of my life away from this forum due to concerns about questions people might ask and not wanting to deal with enforcing my boundaries on keeping it private, but in order to explain why I reacted the way I did, I have to tell y'all. You deserve to know why I reacted the way I did. So. Late last year, I applied to become a foster parent. It took a few months and I had my first placement in December. I've had a few different placements over the year, but right now I have three kids. One of them is a teenager who has been with me for several months now. A few days ago, he seriously injured himself and ended up in the hospital. I'm not going to go into detail about my foster kids here. I'm certainly not going to talk about them in relation to the site's theme, except maybe if I'm talking about how well my non-punitive parenting style works with them. But, I was trying to distract myself and pretend everything was normal, and came on here. I was dysregulated due to my fear for him and lingering shock. So then, when you responded to me in a way that has annoyed me many times in the past, all of the issues I've had with you over time bubbled to the surface and my fear turned to anger and I wasn't consciously aware that I was handling the situation disproportionately. My kid is going to be okay, and I'm back to emotionally regulated. I am still a bit frustrated with you, but between my disproportionate and, I have to admit, unkind response to you, and the seats Shelby gave you, I suppose we're even. Just, seriously, though... I don't appreciate being treated like a bottom outside of very specific, well-negotiated circumstances. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> Subject: Re: An explanation and an apology. Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:29:10 10/01/24 Tue Thank you for responding. I'll try not to tease in the future. I hope he's okay. Does he self harm? Of course you don't have to answer that. I've known some teens who self harm and it's really sad. I mean not like self spanking, I think that's a completely different thing than like cutting. That's really cool that you foster kids. I'm glad we're good. My butt did kind of hurt when I sat in my first class, but I think that was more psychological. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]