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Subject: Re: still disciplined at 24

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Wondering-supportive

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Date Posted: 10:22:08 11/25/24 Mon
In reply to: Heidi 's message, "still disciplined at 24" on 22:47:53 11/24/24 Sun

Thanks for sharing your experiences with your dad. Many have commented in the past on a number of forums that a 'licking' received from a variety of implements can be a cathartic experience that releases a flood of emotions. Guilt can often be central to the release felt, as if a heavy weight has been lifted from the shoulders.

The continuing relationship you have with your dad is certainly not a common or normal one. But that doesn't make it or you crazy for wanting it. We all cope with stress in many different ways. Some for example by drinking excessively. Your means is time-limited and self contained and presumably doesn't have spill-over effects on others that other coping mechanisms such as drinking can have. Indeed, what you describe is that you are better able to face life and function in a more coherent way because you are not caught up in the emotional turmoil that existed prior to its release by the switchings dad administers.

Clearly your approach works for you, and others should be as lucky to find what works as effectively for them. Going forward, do you think that finding a mate that can take over from dad might be in your future?

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Heidi
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Date Posted: 14:08:06 11/25/24 Mon

Hello W-S, thank you very much for your reply. Well, what I can almost certainly rule out are spill-over effects of my sore bottom on other people. Except maybe mom and dad, who have to put up with my snivelling.
You ask whether there will one day be a mate who could take Dad's place in this respect. I think / I hope it could. But I guess it will probably take a long time of mutual trust and love before his or her forgiveness can bring me the same feeling of relief that I currently experience after a punishment from Dad.

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