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Subject: Re: help me with my daughter


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Lola66
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Date Posted: 14:27:42 05/20/26 Wed
In reply to: Lola66 's message, "help me with my daughter" on 14:56:08 05/18/26 Mon

Hi everyone, I'm exhausted, we just finished arguing, it seems like something is moving, finally thanks to the help of my mother-in-law we managed to make my husband point out that the little girl, even though she loves him very much, is cleverly exploiting his unconditional love to escape her troubles, at first my husband was very upset, especially with her mother, he said that we were taking him for stupid and that he is a grown man and knows how to behave on his own, but then we pointed out to him all the times when instead of scolding our daughter he protected her and by doing so he is turning her into a spoiled child, and that if she continues like this she could even hurt herself, my mother-in-law's words, she was basically the only one talking, she took control of the situation and she is a woman with a very strong character. Anyway, to recap, we've both decided to pull together. My mother-in-law wanted us to punish her today. She ordered the father to behave like a father and warm up his daughter's bottom properly, otherwise she would do it herself. My husband almost argued with my mother-in-law, and I had to intervene to avoid an argument. However, we mutually agreed that it was best to wait for her to mess up again before intervening. For now, I don't know how we'll punish her, but at least we agreed that starting today, we'll change our attitude, with good manners or bad ones. We need to straighten that little girl out somehow before it's too late. What do you think? I swear it was one of the most difficult evenings of my entire life.

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Abbie
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Date Posted: 14:44:29 05/20/26 Wed

Congratulations! You are making great progress. I do think your mother-in-law should do it first so that you and your husband both see how it should be done and so that the girl understands there are 3 adults determined to improve her behavior. Please keep us posted. God bless.

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James to Lola66
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Date Posted: 15:00:31 05/20/26 Wed

So, my message to you that you likely did not get to see still holds. Arguing is not the best way to do it...and yep, as I said, no man enjoys working out a girl is making a fool of him.

As for what I think..the big problem here is not punishment, it's structure. Punishment without a framework for behaviour is not really going to progress. It's just going to replace chaos with fear and hiding.

There isn't a framework of clear and expected attitude, standards and behavior, and both the rewards and the pitfalls of all of that. I don't mind sharing you what I do, but over email, not here.

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Abbie to James
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Date Posted: 15:04:38 05/20/26 Wed

Enough already! She's doing fine. Quit over-posting for God's sake.

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Mark
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Date Posted: 04:07:41 05/21/26 Thu

Lola it sounds like progress with your husband! You know my thoughts and since it sounds like neither you nor your husband has administered a spanking, your MIL should give it under your direction.

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