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Subject: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Laura82 [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 06:29:29 04/17/25 Thu Like most other on this site, I guess, I rummage around for spanking related material on line. There are a few videos under the label Discipline Files on youtube. They're worth a look. I like some of the stories but the AI generated images are comically bad. Mostly there's no continuity of the person or what they are wearing. What grabs my attention is how mild some of the spankings are. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZrlWgZZj_ko (The Lie Beneath the Shards) [ The continuity isn't too bad on this one.] 16 year old Isla wants to help her mother by cleaning the house. (Can't say I was ever that nice. I did chores because I had to.) but she accidentally knock her mothers prized vase over and lies to cover it up. The lie comes out and her mother says. "You know what happens when you lie, Isla. Go to your room." Plausible, so far, but she gets ten slaps with her mother's hand over her pyjamas. Was she an amazon? Would that bother any real girl who was used to being spanked? Let alone make her cry. What do people think? Perhaps I was the odd one, but something that mild would have been worse than useless as a punishment for me. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Marcey [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:54:39 04/17/25 Thu I think that is a far cry (sorry bad pun) from what I would call a punishment spanking. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Dana [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:48:45 04/17/25 Thu If the parents don't scare their children with senseless beatings, then after being nice enough to voluntarily clean the house, and accidentally breaking the vase, there would be no problem telling the mother what happened. At least the mother didn't administer a severe punishment, which would have made things even worse. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Laura82 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:26:42 04/18/25 Fri Maybe, but isn't that less to do with how children are punished and more to do with parents reacting in anger than how they are punished. I've know people who lied to avoid: spanking, grounding, loosing electronics or parental disapproval. I was lucky enough to have parents who were more reasonable. I always knew I'd be given a fair hearing before I was punished so I didn't lie. I imagine I'd have had a hiding if I lied to Dad's face but it never happened. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Dana [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:29:56 04/18/25 Fri I think most kids fear a beating more than other punishments, but I'm sure it varies. The advantage of other punishments is that the parent can later change their mind after they have time to reflect on the seriousness of the offense, or if they were maybe reacting more to their disappointment of the broken vase than what's best for the child. There's no taking back a spanking, or making it less severe after it's been given. As I said, at least the mother here wasn't too severe. My parents used spanking, so I'm not speaking as one who doesn't know what it's like. Would they have punished for an accident? Not unless it was significant carelessness that could lead to something bad if not checked — something that needed drastic attention. Anyone can accidentally break a vase, even the owner of that vase. Punishment doesn't prevent accidents like that unless maybe the child is chronically careless. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Laura82 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:15:23 04/19/25 Sat I suppose it depends on the severity of the spanking. I remember years ago (maybe 2008) a spokeswoman from the NSPCC (British charity charged with protecting children, who are rabidly anti smacking) conceded in the interview that 9 out 10 teens who had experienced both would choose spanking over grounding. She replied "That's because grounding is even more cruel," and we were too busy laughing to hear the rest. That said more and more people are finding other ways of guiding children with less emphasis on any kind of punishment. It's banned in more and more countries and here in the UK. Spanking is illegal in Wales and Scotland and restricted in England. I don't think its been tested in court but lasting marks would almost certainly be illegal along with excessive humiliation. (Naked or more then a few slaps in public.) I may have said before a swotted my niece (who'd have been abt 10) in the park. She wasn't very bothered, but the looks I got. Funny story a few months ago (she's 14 now) and was playing up in a restaurant and clearly expected a slap. Her mum might have done that, but I wouldn't. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Dana [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 00:26:56 04/23/25 Wed "I remember years ago (maybe 2008) a spokeswoman from the NSPCC (British charity charged with protecting children, who are rabidly anti smacking) conceded in the interview that 9 out 10 teens who had experienced both would choose spanking over grounding. She replied 'That's because grounding is even more cruel,' and we were too busy laughing to hear the rest." Maybe if the spanking is light, a teen would choose it over grounding. There is also the embarrassment factor. This must vary from kid to kid, but if the spanking is truly feared, and causes a deep sense of shame, then a grounding can be a huge relief. A spanking in our house caused both fear and shame, and I doubt many teens would choose that punishment. Of course, nothing said you couldn't have both. The punishment could be a grounding with a blistered behind. Whatever the case, a parent can ultimately cause more damage than good. They're not just reminding the child to be careful around the house, they could also be teaching about unfairness, lack of compassion and forgiveness, addressing problems through violence, and that material things are more important than human beings. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Laura82 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:04:42 04/24/25 Thu Dana, I'm sorry it was so bad for you. It wasn't that bad for me. Sure it was embarrassing and hurt like hell. In the cold light of day I would have chosen it over grounding, but if it was imminent I would have been too scared. Fortunately I never had to choose. I'd have chickened out and kicked myself afterwards. Honestly I'm not so sure about spanking any more. The problems are exaggerated in my opinion, but there is almost always a better solution. It worked for me but I've never smacked my girls. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Dana [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:17:18 04/26/25 Sat Laura, thank you for your kind words. I'm not sure how to measure comparatively how bad it was for me, but I think I survived as well as you appear to have gotten past it. Most kids are pretty resilient. Everyone in my family turned out good. Maybe not as good as we could. We love our parents, they love us, and we needed them very much. If we must, we forgive, and we don't allow the love to be broken. I have never spanked a child, and the idea of it repels me, however I have not been in the position of having to make that decision. I do know that parenting is not always easy, even with kids who are inherently good. You sound like the kind of parent every kid should have, doing the honest best you can. I don't give advice regarding spanking but, with their best interests at heart, your girls will be raised well. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Louise Vancisic Vancisic [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:39:16 04/22/25 Tue I was spanked for accidents but that was because I needed to be more attentive. I think it helped me focus. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Rebecca [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:43:04 04/18/25 Fri At 16, a hand spanking over my pajamas would have been a joke. My Dad would do something like that as a lighthearted birthday spanking not a serious punishment. I think if I'd gotten a spanking like that as a punishment, I'd have considered it as encouragement to break more of "Mom's prized vases." lol. My Mom didn't have any prized vases, but she did have some prized collectibles. They were locked inside a display cabinet. One of her sets was a collection of bells with various birds for the handles. They were handed down to her from her great-grandmother. My brothers were playing football in the house one time and broke the glass case as well as the tail off one of the birds. Mom was so furious she sent them to their room to wait for Dad to deal with them. He wore their butts out with the belt and followed it up with 15 swats from the paddle. They were 13 and 15 at the time. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Alfred22 (for Rebecca) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:38:25 04/19/25 Sat Did they have any excuse at all? It is clearly puzzling what they could have been thinking. For example, had they been in for a string of rainy days with no chance for exercise? It seems like an example of extreme disrespect for your mom's feelings and shows little concern for things dear to her and to the family traditions. Was there any restitution involved afterwards? A doubly intense spanking like they got can tend to feel like they paid their debt with the pain and the enduring days of sitting gingerly on sore bottoms. They really need to make it up to Mom and to the family. Pay for the repairs and maybe at least JOINTLY compose an apology to Mom and to the whole family both existing and future members. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Rebecca [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:21:14 04/19/25 Sat My brothers had a bad of habit of screwing around in the house with activities better suited for the outdoors. Mom and Dad were constantly telling them to take it outside, but until this incident I don't think they'd ever broken anything beyond a glass or a plate. They knew they'd messed up right away even before Mom sent them to their room. I'm pretty sure they had to pay for the broken glass out of their allowance which was probably a couple of months worth. Naturally they apologized to Mom and not just because Dad made them. I know they both had/have genuine remorse over it. Fortunately my dad was able to glue the tail back on and you have to look very closely to even notice it was broken. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Alfred22 for Rebecca [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 23:19:24 04/19/25 Sat I bet they were relieved to learn later that you Dad was able to make a repair that was not visually obvious. The almost good as new fix together with the fifteen paddle swats on top of their belt licks probably have the result of their feeling any debt was paid in full! Did indoor soccer end more or less forever? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Rebecca [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:03:40 05/03/25 Sat I'm sure the repair eased their conscience some. My brothers were always a little bit incorrigible so indoor sports, wrestling and other reckless shenanigans continued from time to time. I do think they were a little cautious about their surrounding though. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Alex [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:22:02 04/20/25 Sun Joe the King and Confetti Harvest are my favorite examples of this type. OTK bare bottom hand spanking. Both scenes are pretty much in the horror genre to me because both are claimed to depict punishments that actually happened to the filmmakers, and both punishments were enforced with opposite sex witnesses. The boy is about 8 or 9 at the time of his public humiliation, and the girl is 12 when her father spanks her bare bottom in front of her older brother. The spankings are not particularly painful, but embarrassment is off the charts. Unfortunately the Confetti Harvest scene is no longer on YouTube but the film is not difficult to find online. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RZziZRbaCPc&pp=ygUVSm9lIHRoZSBraW5nIHNwYW5raW5n [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Kevin [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:20:48 04/24/25 Thu Hi Laura. Esp for teens. Lenient spankings will not help a girl deeply bond with her Mom, niether. Which is what they want. Same with the wives. And the boys, too. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Deanna [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:39:49 04/25/25 Fri It is not very realistic for my spankings at home for a teen my parents used a oval paddle hard wood varnished with four holes in a square iand one in the center of the square 10 licks is about right but mine would have been harder with the paddle . I am now married 20 to a man 10 years older we have a spanking relationship we are newlyweds [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Alfred22 for Deanna [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:24:24 05/05/25 Mon How did the arrangement of holes work in practice? Did your folks use the center hole as a kind of sighting device and aim the center hole at the center or sit spot of each bottom cheek? What did you look like after a firm application? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Plausible punishment spankings Author: Deanna for Alfred [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:07:10 05/09/25 Fri The holes hit your bottom and it was and is a good otk paddle the holes increase speed and sting my husbands parents used one just like it my best friends dad made one with holes in a triangle my parents called it a bullseye paddle and for a little paddle it stings a lot . My husband made one for my punishment spankingd over his knee it works . [ Post a Reply to This Message ]