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Subject: Re: Grounding or spanking? What do you and your kids say about it

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Date Posted: 16:43:55 05/08/24 Wed
In reply to: Kelly 's message, "Grounding or spanking? What do you and your kids say about it" on 10:23:22 05/08/24 Wed

Kelly,

I am really bewildered and trying not to be too judgemental, how does grounding makes any sense.

First of all grounding a child is a punishment for everyone in the house as is taking things away, besides what others have said they are also angry at their parents constantly while being grounded. Besides they need to experience a spanking, they need that chance to cry out their emotions, it's very helpful and cathartic.

In my experience they express all these negative emotions through their disrespectful attitude. And what is a parent supposed to do once an already grounded child throws a fit, or breaks the rules again? Extend the confinement of their rooms forever?

On average as from when my boys were young I had to spank each of them once or twice a week that as they got older went to twice a month then once month. Sometimes especially during the summer I was not surprised to spank on weekly basis even up to 13-14. In this regard I could have never spent any time with my family. Because they would be grounded all the time.

I have been over it so many times, and I see no merit to grounding. I think that confining a child for a week or two is harmful for them. It takes away their childhood, and time they could have spent enjoying their lives, and once a child is grounded parent can’t do anything more if they decide to misbehave again. Not to mention about constant negative atmosphere in the house, and the relationship, bonds that suffer the most, I know as Mary said how much better things are around the house after their spanking.

I haven’t put my boys through anything I had not experienced myself. Each and every spanking was earned on our bare bottom, that never changed. Obviously I hated them, a spanking was the most dreadful thing in the world. But once the spanking was over my mom would cuddle me until I have stopped crying, and we moved on with our lives.

We, (my sister and I) also thanked our mom back in our teens for our spankings and we were grateful for them rather than being grounded even though we hated her spankings, we both knew girls and boys that were spanked or grounded some got both. Our brother didn't thank mom until he was in his 20s, my boys, will be the same as they have not thanked me for spanking them but I know they have complained about their friends that are grounded, just as your boys did Kelly with you, so I do know they do prefer me to spank instead of grounding, which I never would any way.

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>Kelly, > >I am really bewildered and trying not to be too >judgemental, how does grounding makes any sense. > >First of all grounding a child is a punishment for >everyone in the house as is taking things away, >besides what others have said they are also angry at >their parents constantly while being grounded. Besides >they need to experience a spanking, they need that >chance to cry out their emotions, it's very helpful >and cathartic. > >In my experience they express all these negative >emotions through their disrespectful attitude. And >what is a parent supposed to do once an already >grounded child throws a fit, or breaks the rules >again? Extend the confinement of their rooms forever? > >On average as from when my boys were young I had to >spank each of them once or twice a week that as they >got older went to twice a month then once month. >Sometimes especially during the summer I was not >surprised to spank on weekly basis even up to 13-14. >In this regard I could have never spent any time with >my family. Because they would be grounded all the time. > >I have been over it so many times, and I see no merit >to grounding. I think that confining a child for a >week or two is harmful for them. It takes away their >childhood, and time they could have spent enjoying >their lives, and once a child is grounded parent >can’t do anything more if they decide to misbehave >again. Not to mention about constant negative >atmosphere in the house, and the relationship, bonds >that suffer the most, I know as Mary said how much >better things are around the house after their >spanking. > >I haven’t put my boys through anything I had not >experienced myself. Each and every spanking was earned >on our bare bottom, that never changed. Obviously I >hated them, a spanking was the most dreadful thing in >the world. But once the spanking was over my mom would >cuddle me until I have stopped crying, and we moved on >with our lives. > >We, (my sister and I) also thanked our mom back in our >teens for our spankings and we were grateful for them >rather than being grounded even though we hated her >spankings, we both knew girls and boys that were >spanked or grounded some got both. Our brother didn't >thank mom until he was in his 20s, my boys, will be >the same as they have not thanked me for spanking them >but I know they have complained about their friends >that are grounded, just as your boys did Kelly with >you, so I do know they do prefer me to spank instead >of grounding, which I never would any way.
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