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] Date Posted: 18:56:55 04/30/25 Wed Hi, my name is Alexis and my husband is Marty. We have two daughters, Susan 14 and Patty 12, and they have been spanked now and then since they were preschool kids, but spanking has not been the primary source of discipline and has only been used sparingly, like in the last year maybe twice a month for the younger girl and once a month for Susan. Mostly when we spank, it is a case of me telling the girl, “Wait until your father gets home”. That has been the case for notes brought home about poor work or bad conduct at school, about a complaint from a neighbor about some bad conduct (usually with another neighborhood girl), or where I have personally observed one of the girls acting up and starting a fight with the other girl. Daddy typically deals with the spankings for that kind of thing that evening. I have spanked and will spank if one of the girls crosses the line with me, actually yells at me, swears or is outright fresh at being told by me to do something by me or otherwise gives me real backtalk. I have typically spanked for things like that, but again rarely. We've used a host of other punishments in the last few years instead of spanking. The thing is that over this last holiday season , just three months ago, my husband got promoted and we moved to a small rural town and the church we have been attending is very pro-spanking for young children and teens and, with a parent’s permission (we also signed the slip needed when we enrolled our two), paddling are even given at the public school, too. The thing is that in the last couple of months our girls are frequently coming home on afternoons and evenings from visiting at one or another neighbor’s house, or when just playing with other kids in their yard or at one of the small parks, and they come in with clearly excited even delighted faces to report that one or more of the youngsters or teens where they were visiting got spanked by their parents the night before, or after school, or in some cases while they were visiting. And it is like they can’t wait to tell me or their father all the details. “While we were in that park on Green Street, we could hear Jimmy Phelen getting spanked by his mother in their kitchen and she really whaled him good, Mom! And it was on his bare, too, and you should have heard him crying!” “You know Mary Conner, Mom! She was here with some kids a couple of days ago. She had a note from her teacher about talking in class and after school her mother spanked her right in front of all of us. In the living room with her dress up and her panties pulled off. And there were boys there, too! And she had to do corner time crying with her bottom on display before she could come and play monopoly with us, Mom! We started a new game when her mom finally said she could join us.” And our kids keep telling us about this one or that one who is getting maintenance spankings. “Like every Saturday morning, Mom, after breakfast, Ginny and Phyllis get a spanking in the living room from their mother and dad, and the whole family, aunts and uncles, too, gets to watch!” Am I missing something here. Is this a general push toward more spanking that I just haven’t heard about? My question is, since my two take such obvious and open delight in telling about and sometimes watching these spankings when they get the chance, should we consider starting to spank our two more often instead of all those other punishments we use, some of which are as hard on us as on the kids? Should we maybe even think about giving them maintenance spankings once a week, because their reactions seem almost like they feel they are being left out or something. Are maintenance spankings becoming more of a thing these days in rural America--maybe because of the general push right now toward more conservative political and social views? Alexis [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: Monica [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 12:13:43 05/01/25 Thu Hi, I am the mother of a girl 15 and step-mother of a boy 12. Both my new husband of three years and I are spanking parents and we each spank both kids whenever we feel spanking is needed, but we also give maintenance spankings. In our home this is not a case of I spank my girl and he spanks his boy. We do bot spank fairly frequently, and on their maintenance spankings each week we share the task. One of those is a bedtime spanking and the other is given early on Sunday mornings before we got to church several hours later. On Sundays, we get our two up and spank them early so they will go to church looking well-spanked and with puffy eyes from crying. A lot of the parents in our church do this so we all easily see that a lot of the kids come to church after they have very obviously been well-spanked that morning. All of the kids at church, and I feel pretty sure all of us parents as well, enjoy seeing lots of girls and boys alike who are clearly showing the signs of having been well-spanked earlier. From what you wrote, Alexis, it seems very clear to me that your kids are very fascinated by how often the other kids they know and play with in your new neighborhood are spanked. You have moved there in the last three months or so, so this is something new and exciting to them. The fact that they make a point of telling you, not just in passing but in detail, about the spankings they hear or see on a given days, suggests strongly to me that your two definitely want to be included in the "group" of kids who get spanked a lot but would feel "funny" coming right out and saying that. Parents should not underestimate the impact of peer pressure on the lives of their kids. It is a very real thing and not necessarily bad of itself. However, at times it can make the lives of some kids a real misery when they are left out so to speak of experiences common to most in the group. There is often a real "prestige" factor among kids on such matters as how often they are spanked, and how they are spanked, and it is typical in areas where spanking is commonplace (in a lot of small towns and urban areas for example where conservative churches are very important) that the more a preteen or teen gets spanked without whining and complaining by the child, the better the standing of that young person with that group as a whole. Respect among the peers a young person sees every day can really be important to your children. I would definitely suggest you start to improve the standing of your two with their peers immediately by putting them on maintenance spankings right away. I would mention that you can always cut back on those regular spankings, but its a bit more tricky to increase them once they are put in place so I would suggest you start with two spankings a week for each of your two rather than one. That number is easily bearable by kids the ages of your two, but just one spanking each a week may simply may not be quite enough for them, and not enough also to make them comfortably within the "upper ranks" of their peers. Also, we spank our two together in the living room on Sunday mornings, but we give them their other maintenance spankings each week on different nights--the girl at her bedtime on Tuesday and the boy on Wednesday. For both it is bath upstairs then down to the living room in just bathrobe and slippers. These are easily removed and set aside for their spankings. This method means that when one of them is given that spanking, the other gets to watch and yes--face it and be honest about it--the one not being spanked on a given night will thoroughly enjoy watching the other spanked. Again, this makes those regular spankings much more bearable and acceptable to our two kids, and will so with yours as well. Spankings are by hand from me first, then with the Lexan paddle by my husband. Those paddles are available on line and they are wonderful. You can spank and spank and spank with them and not leave any bruises or marks or any damage other than the very red and very sore bottoms and thighs just spanked. Hope these suggestions help you, Alexis. I feel this is a situation you really need to deal with positively. Monica [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Lindsay to Alexis [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 13:13:38 05/01/25 Thu Hi there Alexis, My name is Lindsay and I am a 19 year old woman from Hawaii. I pretty much started maintenance spanking on this forum, and now have over 16 young people getting a session at least once a week. The net result has been very rewarding. The children, almost to a person, have grown a lot closer to their parents and in fact it's been a great bonding experience which you can read about in the various threads covering the maintenance sessions. I definitely would echo what the previous writer had to say about it being a very positive situation and what I would strongly recommend that you begin with your two girls right away. Almost all of the kids are from the UK interestingly enough but it works very well there as well. I've actually become close to a number of them and it is this rewarding experience it keeps me doing this. It's a little frustrated living in Hawaii because I'm essentially 22 hours off of where they are, but there are certain times of the day when we can communicate freely. You on the other hand if you'd like to start it on maintenance, will be a lot easier to communicate with as it is just a matter of hours instead of almost a day. I would be happy to help you get started. It's actually a very simple process. You pick a couple of different days during the week. The family's here have mostly chosen Wednesdays and Saturdays, but Sunday morning would be a good call too. You make it clear that Wednesday afternoon or evening is always reserved for maintenance and when the time rolls around before or after dinner or tea as they call it, then the girls know that it's time to head to their rooms and take off all their clothes and fold them neatly and report to the living room. Then when you know that they're in place, you come in, sit down, and have them report to you and stand in front of you with their arms at their sides and then you have a discussion which can last as short as 5 minutes or be as long as a half an hour about their behavior since the last session. How they're doing in school, how they sports teams are doing that they belong to, how they're doing with their friends, and how they think they are behaving in general. Since there is two of them and two of you, typically the families with siblings divided up so that one talks to one and the other talks to the other one I short distance apart. Once you're sure they have nothing else to share, then they need to ask you to be spanked. This was awkward at first but all the kids are doing it now regularly as a part of the session. What I have always recommended is 20 hand strokes and then give them time to dance that off, and then up to 10 strokes with the lexan paddle which you can order online if you don't have one, popular because it leaves no marks at all, and then give him a chance to dance that off. I will tell you that particularly the UK parents have all decided that rather than having to sessions a week they wanted to reduce that to one, and now you'll read that they are spanking their kids as much as 400 times, about half of that with the lexan. This is never anything I've suggested, recommended, or even pitched the idea, so please ignore it unless you evolve to the same place. The parents are seeming to one up each other and if the first one does 150, the second one wants to do 200, etc. I sure can't explain it. But again coming back to the maintenance session, once I get a chance to dance that second spanking off, then they climb up in your lap for cuddling. This is a very important part of maintenance. This is where the kids really get close to you and bond well. You talk to them very soothingly and rub their heads, shoulders, bottoms, backs, legs and whatever else you would like to rub. This process can take as long as an hour or more in the kids all love this. They find it very soothing and like I said very bonding being petted and cuddled as the crying wears down. You'll see reports of very intimate contact between the parents and the kids. This is nothing I have ever recommended and I believe was started with and uncle and his niece in northern England, the parents heard about it and decided to replicate it. Please don't be thrown by this, if you want to do something like this it's up to you but it's certainly not necessary part of Maintenance sessions. Once you feel that the girl has been thoroughly cuddled and definitely take as much time as it is necessary, then give her a big hug and a kiss and send her on her way to put her clothes back on and go about her day. I can't tell you how successful this has been and many parents have told me that there's been a miraculous change in their children's behaviors. It sounds to me like yours are pretty well behaved to begin with, but I agree with everything that she said about the girls being fascinated with the culture there in that rural town you find yourself in. Anyway, that's the whole maintenance session, and I would recommend two per week, but if you reduce it down to one, promise me you won't spank your daughters hundreds of times how about LOL! I'm always easy to spot here on this forum if you have any questions and I might take a while to reply although probably much easier with you since you're in the US. But I'll always be happy to talk to you. Good luck to you and I can't recommend this enough for Susan and Patty. Very best to you, Lindsay [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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