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] Date Posted: 12:13:43 05/01/25 Thu In reply to: Alexis 's message, "Should We Start Spanking More Often" on 18:56:55 04/30/25 Wed Hi, I am the mother of a girl 15 and step-mother of a boy 12. Both my new husband of three years and I are spanking parents and we each spank both kids whenever we feel spanking is needed, but we also give maintenance spankings. In our home this is not a case of I spank my girl and he spanks his boy. We do bot spank fairly frequently, and on their maintenance spankings each week we share the task. One of those is a bedtime spanking and the other is given early on Sunday mornings before we got to church several hours later. On Sundays, we get our two up and spank them early so they will go to church looking well-spanked and with puffy eyes from crying. A lot of the parents in our church do this so we all easily see that a lot of the kids come to church after they have very obviously been well-spanked that morning. All of the kids at church, and I feel pretty sure all of us parents as well, enjoy seeing lots of girls and boys alike who are clearly showing the signs of having been well-spanked earlier. From what you wrote, Alexis, it seems very clear to me that your kids are very fascinated by how often the other kids they know and play with in your new neighborhood are spanked. You have moved there in the last three months or so, so this is something new and exciting to them. The fact that they make a point of telling you, not just in passing but in detail, about the spankings they hear or see on a given days, suggests strongly to me that your two definitely want to be included in the "group" of kids who get spanked a lot but would feel "funny" coming right out and saying that. Parents should not underestimate the impact of peer pressure on the lives of their kids. It is a very real thing and not necessarily bad of itself. However, at times it can make the lives of some kids a real misery when they are left out so to speak of experiences common to most in the group. There is often a real "prestige" factor among kids on such matters as how often they are spanked, and how they are spanked, and it is typical in areas where spanking is commonplace (in a lot of small towns and urban areas for example where conservative churches are very important) that the more a preteen or teen gets spanked without whining and complaining by the child, the better the standing of that young person with that group as a whole. Respect among the peers a young person sees every day can really be important to your children. I would definitely suggest you start to improve the standing of your two with their peers immediately by putting them on maintenance spankings right away. I would mention that you can always cut back on those regular spankings, but its a bit more tricky to increase them once they are put in place so I would suggest you start with two spankings a week for each of your two rather than one. That number is easily bearable by kids the ages of your two, but just one spanking each a week may simply may not be quite enough for them, and not enough also to make them comfortably within the "upper ranks" of their peers. Also, we spank our two together in the living room on Sunday mornings, but we give them their other maintenance spankings each week on different nights--the girl at her bedtime on Tuesday and the boy on Wednesday. For both it is bath upstairs then down to the living room in just bathrobe and slippers. These are easily removed and set aside for their spankings. This method means that when one of them is given that spanking, the other gets to watch and yes--face it and be honest about it--the one not being spanked on a given night will thoroughly enjoy watching the other spanked. Again, this makes those regular spankings much more bearable and acceptable to our two kids, and will so with yours as well. Spankings are by hand from me first, then with the Lexan paddle by my husband. Those paddles are available on line and they are wonderful. You can spank and spank and spank with them and not leave any bruises or marks or any damage other than the very red and very sore bottoms and thighs just spanked. Hope these suggestions help you, Alexis. I feel this is a situation you really need to deal with positively. Monica [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: Lindsay to Alexis [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 13:13:38 05/01/25 Thu Hi there Alexis, My name is Lindsay and I am a 19 year old woman from Hawaii. I pretty much started maintenance spanking on this forum, and now have over 16 young people getting a session at least once a week. The net result has been very rewarding. The children, almost to a person, have grown a lot closer to their parents and in fact it's been a great bonding experience which you can read about in the various threads covering the maintenance sessions. I definitely would echo what the previous writer had to say about it being a very positive situation and what I would strongly recommend that you begin with your two girls right away. Almost all of the kids are from the UK interestingly enough but it works very well there as well. I've actually become close to a number of them and it is this rewarding experience it keeps me doing this. It's a little frustrated living in Hawaii because I'm essentially 22 hours off of where they are, but there are certain times of the day when we can communicate freely. You on the other hand if you'd like to start it on maintenance, will be a lot easier to communicate with as it is just a matter of hours instead of almost a day. I would be happy to help you get started. It's actually a very simple process. You pick a couple of different days during the week. The family's here have mostly chosen Wednesdays and Saturdays, but Sunday morning would be a good call too. You make it clear that Wednesday afternoon or evening is always reserved for maintenance and when the time rolls around before or after dinner or tea as they call it, then the girls know that it's time to head to their rooms and take off all their clothes and fold them neatly and report to the living room. Then when you know that they're in place, you come in, sit down, and have them report to you and stand in front of you with their arms at their sides and then you have a discussion which can last as short as 5 minutes or be as long as a half an hour about their behavior since the last session. How they're doing in school, how they sports teams are doing that they belong to, how they're doing with their friends, and how they think they are behaving in general. Since there is two of them and two of you, typically the families with siblings divided up so that one talks to one and the other talks to the other one I short distance apart. Once you're sure they have nothing else to share, then they need to ask you to be spanked. This was awkward at first but all the kids are doing it now regularly as a part of the session. What I have always recommended is 20 hand strokes and then give them time to dance that off, and then up to 10 strokes with the lexan paddle which you can order online if you don't have one, popular because it leaves no marks at all, and then give him a chance to dance that off. I will tell you that particularly the UK parents have all decided that rather than having to sessions a week they wanted to reduce that to one, and now you'll read that they are spanking their kids as much as 400 times, about half of that with the lexan. This is never anything I've suggested, recommended, or even pitched the idea, so please ignore it unless you evolve to the same place. The parents are seeming to one up each other and if the first one does 150, the second one wants to do 200, etc. I sure can't explain it. But again coming back to the maintenance session, once I get a chance to dance that second spanking off, then they climb up in your lap for cuddling. This is a very important part of maintenance. This is where the kids really get close to you and bond well. You talk to them very soothingly and rub their heads, shoulders, bottoms, backs, legs and whatever else you would like to rub. This process can take as long as an hour or more in the kids all love this. They find it very soothing and like I said very bonding being petted and cuddled as the crying wears down. You'll see reports of very intimate contact between the parents and the kids. This is nothing I have ever recommended and I believe was started with and uncle and his niece in northern England, the parents heard about it and decided to replicate it. Please don't be thrown by this, if you want to do something like this it's up to you but it's certainly not necessary part of Maintenance sessions. Once you feel that the girl has been thoroughly cuddled and definitely take as much time as it is necessary, then give her a big hug and a kiss and send her on her way to put her clothes back on and go about her day. I can't tell you how successful this has been and many parents have told me that there's been a miraculous change in their children's behaviors. It sounds to me like yours are pretty well behaved to begin with, but I agree with everything that she said about the girls being fascinated with the culture there in that rural town you find yourself in. Anyway, that's the whole maintenance session, and I would recommend two per week, but if you reduce it down to one, promise me you won't spank your daughters hundreds of times how about LOL! I'm always easy to spot here on this forum if you have any questions and I might take a while to reply although probably much easier with you since you're in the US. But I'll always be happy to talk to you. Good luck to you and I can't recommend this enough for Susan and Patty. Very best to you, Lindsay [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Alexis to Monica and Lindsay [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 02:35:16 05/02/25 Fri Thank you both for your helpful comments. I think I am satisfied at this point that I should start spanking our kids more often and I do plan to start them on two maintenance spankings a week also. I understand your recommendations Lindsay and they make sense for younger kids just getting spanked more or less for the first time but I think my two need longer and harder spankings in general than you recommend. And yes I also agree with you that some of the spankings with some of the kids reporting on their spankings to you are way over the top! Hard to believe the numbers of spanks they say they are getting, especially some of those in the UK. Just way more--WAY MORE--than I would give my kids. But I am going to talk to my kids tomorrow and get them started on two spankings a week and more as needed. And I think right now, it will probably be more than two each week for both of them. One of my daughter's friends got spanked today when they got home from school. (My daughter had called me and with my permission went to that girl's house to play. My daughter said the girl's mother took off all her clothes in front of the other kids who were there and spanked her really good with her hand and with a large flat wooden spoon. And when my daughter was getting ready to come home for supper, she said that girl's mother said she was going to spank her daughter again so she'd have a hot bottom to sit on for supper, and also she would spank her again at her bedtime! So you can see, many of these parents are spanking their kids a lot, several times a day even. And my daughter said when she left to come home that girl had been spanked good again and was dancing around naked with her bottom red hot with three or four of her classmates there with my daughter to watch. I guess I have some catching up to do with my kids. Alexis [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Lindsay to Alexis [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 05:30:55 05/02/25 Fri Hi Alexis sweetie, Of the 16 kids involved here so far, these are not younger kids. They are all right in the neighborhood of your kids. That's why when I saw their ages I thought this might be ideal for you. The kids here are all 9 years old through 13, with most by far being 11 12 and 13. We don't have anyone as old as Susan, but I don't see any reason why she couldn't be part of the same sessions. Ironically, they're almost all from the UK. It would be refreshing to have a couple of girls checking in from the US actually. I don't see any reason why girls as old as 19 can't be under the same regimen. I've read about some in the rules South who gets spanked through 23 or 24 going to college. But the vast majority of girls are exactly your girl's age. I'm glad you've decided to start with it. The basic rubric remains the same. It's always the same two times every week. The girls go to their rooms, take all their clothes off and fold them, come to the living room and wait for you. Some parents have their children wait with their hands on their heads but I think just down by their sides is fine. Then you have your discussion and there's no reason that you can't go with a higher number than 20 and a higher number than 10 on the lexan. Whatever makes sense to you, just like I said promise me you won't get into the hundreds. 40 well delivered is a good round number. Please remember this is never meant to be a punishment, but an opportunity to keep the kids on the right track and a side benefit certainly is the bonding. Once the hand and lexan are done and they've danced it off, it's time for them to climb on your laps and start cuddling. Be sure and allow as much time as necessary. I recommend the child straddle the adults legs, face the adult and look into his or her eyes while doing this and soothe and comfort and caress the girls entire bodies as they're calming down from crying. If you can stick with twice a week, you'll find that this eliminates the need to spank more often. That second section with the lexan is meant for any misbehavior and you can use the paddle as much or as little as is needed. A reminder can be used during any misbehavior that that will be addressed in maintenance and that's he usually enough to curb that behavior. Once the cuddling is over, like I said time for a big hug and kiss and send them back to put their clothes on unless you prefer that they remain naked which a couple of families do. Good luck to you and please let me know how it goes. Again, it has been incredibly successful here and although your girls don't seem to need it, lives have been completely turned around as a result of what we're doing here, which is what keeps me doing it. Best wishes your way, Lindsay [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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