Date Posted:09:41:54 12/29/25 Mon Author:Anne01 Subject: Re: How do I get started? In reply to:
Lion-Tamer
's message, "Re: How do I get started?" on 09:18:33 12/29/25 Mon
>That's a goal I'm heading for, especially with the
>younger one I just don't want to jump to it too
>quickly and have pushback.
>
>Do you have any recommendations for underwear, right
>now his are things like mario, Minecraft, spongebob
>and sonic, would you say these are out of the age
>range we want?
>Also why feminine undies, will this have an effect at
>all?
>You want to move him away from the dominant aggressive male type like his brother . Make him more comfortable with more feminine things and give him lots of praise and support when he picks them . Encourage him to ask for his pacifier at night . Make a fuss over giving him a bottle and wearing his bib as you feed him .Give him lots of cuddles skin to skin .
>
>
>>>Thank you for the explanation, I have started this,
>>>days they have been with us have been a bit patchy
>but
>>>now we have them for a long block, 26th to the 9th.
>>>I've started slow as you advised, the focus has been
>>>on the 7 year old just pull-ups for bed after the
>>>nightly bath so far. I got him onesie PJs for
>>>Christmas, so when he's ready for the next step we
>can
>>>start using them. No wet pull-ups, which is pretty
>>>much what I expected as he hasn't bedwet before, but
>>>no protests when I put them on.
>>>
>>>Both boys have reached a point where they let me wipe
>>>them, the 7 year old will whisper to me that he has
>to
>>>poop, it's very cute. The 10 year old is more
>>>secretive, I have to watch for the signs of him
>>>sneaking off upstairs then follow.
>>>
>>>Does this sound like we are on the right lines, how
>>>long until I should add the sleeper to the bedtime
>>>routine, is there signs I should look for that he's
>>>ready for the next stage? I know after that for a
>>>while I should assist with the toilet trips but is
>>>there a specific point I should step back?
>>>
>>>Social services have visited and looked at our
>>>situation, they are not currently taking things
>>>further, we didn't deny we spank, they didn't seem
>too
>>>concerned with the living situation.
>>>Thanks In advance
>>>
>>>Now you have that established . Maybe start with a
>>bib and feeding them at meal times . Maybe a bottle
>>last thing at night with a pacifier . Change the
>>youngest's underwear for something more babyish and
>>feminine .
>>
>>
>>>>I agree with Anne I do think you need a more
>>nurturing
>>>>approach to the younger child. The kids are at
>>>>different stages and the older one seems to be the
>>>>instigator from.the information you have given.
>>>>Continue as you are with the 10 year old.
>>>>
>>>>With the younger boy I would start with pull-ups at
>>>>night. its a new rule, explain you have new sheets
>>and
>>>>would like him to wear it just in case To protect
>>>>them.
>>>>I don't know how often you have custody but the
>first
>>>>step is drilling into him the routine, bath time,
>>>>followed by pull-ups.
>>>>
>>>>He won't use them at first and that's okay. It's
>just
>>>>gently getting him compliant, pull-ups "just in
>>case".
>>>>
>>>>Then invest in a sleeper, one he will find difficult
>>>>to remove, the goal is to have him need to come and
>>>>tell you when he has to "go potty". It will mean for
>>a
>>>>few nights before he goes to bed and in the night
>>>>you'll be woken to take him. Then you can start
>>having
>>>>him wait until you are "not busy" to take him. Tell
>>>>him to wait until morning if you are woken at night.
>>>>At this point you can switch from pull-ups to
>diapers
>>>>and extend the amount of time he is in the sleeper,
>a
>>>>few hours before bed and after he wakes up.
>>>>
>>>>Very slow.
Anne01