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Date Posted: 16:54:45 02/04/00 Fri
Author: Catherine
Subject: Re: Cath and thoughts on the evolution of friendship
In reply to: Chris 's message, "Re: Cath and thoughts on the evolution of friendship" on 12:20:13 01/31/00 Mon

Chris - nice insight! Sadly enough I missed that oh so blatant link completely - I guess I was too busy wondering if Jane would clog the shitter or not. What's interesting in this book is that she is more focused on why Martha doesn't want to be her friend then why she doesn't really need Martha as a friend anymore. Before I came to DC to see you all, I think I was a bit nervous and talking to one of my bosses, and she told me about how after she got back from living in Italy when she was about our age she called a best friend of hers and all her friend did was talk about her new vaccuum cleaner (she was married with young kids, and my bosses is still single) she said that it was wierd that someone who she used to love talking to she was suddenly bored by and had nothing to say to. So these changes occur. But I don't feel that the friendship therefore is neccessarily "shed" like evolutionary characteristics. I think that even if a friendship is no longer active, a piece of it remains with you - what you learn about trust, boundaries, personalities, etc. and helps contribute to the person that you are. Does this make sense? I guess some parts of characteristics in evolution remain, so those could parrallel the lessons you learn in friendships, but in evolution, the being learns it has no use for x and drops it completely - I don't think we as people do that, I think we are more symbiotic - is this the word, or is there such a word?... Do I still ramble - some things are constant... :)

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Re: Cath and thoughts on the evolution of friendship -- Courtney, 11:07:14 02/07/00 Mon