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Date Posted: 11:24:27 03/11/05 Fri
Author: Nick T.
Subject: have them ask questions
In reply to: Jim Bouldin 's message, "counseling UBF recruitees" on 17:33:55 03/10/05 Thu

Jim,

You probably already know this, but a simple approach would be to convince the recruit to ask questions about salient matters concerning ubf's conduct, history, bad reputation. The simple act of asking serious questions signals that the love bombing mechanism has not achieved its desired goals. Love bombing is a one sided approach to make the recruit feel loved, accepted, to show a very unusual level of intrest in the student. Here is a description of love-bombing from reveal.org

Mind-control techniques such as love-bombing are designed to bypass a person's intelligence and especially his critical-thinking skills. When a lonely or hurting person suddenly receives an overwhelming amount of love and acceptance, it is extremely difficult for him to stand back and assess the reasons for this or question something he desperately doesn't want to have disappear.

ubf does not want students to analyze the ubf. They just want them to get caught up in, and the love-bombing tactic has been their only tool for the last 40 years. Love-bombing is stage one, the goal is to get the student to make a commitment to God 'thru ubf'. (This is not a Bible idea, it is a ubf idea)

But after the student makes a commitment in good faith, ubf changes from love-bombing into guilt-bombing. The student is coerced into giving everything to ubf, as ubf gave them a time of love-bombing. It is also a psychological rule called reciprocity, where when we are given something, we feel a debt to that party and want to give back. At ubf the trick is that they give very little and try to take everything from everybody.

Other questions could include 'is there ever a good reason for a person to leave the ubf, such as to go to a seminary? or other orgnaization that is not like ubf? How does ubf treat people who have left their group? can you help me to get in touch with former members who are still positive about the group?

The point is that there are literally tens of thousands of former ubf members, and ubf speaks ill of all of them, and all formers are disenchanted with ubf. Mnay call ubf a destructive cult. Many have no idea what the ubf experience really is about.

Be totally cautious and a keep parents and family and friends and outsiders involved. They know and love the student more than any ubf unilovebomber.

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Re: counseling UBF recruitees -- Chris, 12:28:36 03/11/05 Fri