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>Some thoughts on the do's and don'ts of helping people >in cults from <a rel=nofollow target=_blank >href=http://www.cultinformation.org.uk/home.html>http:/ >/www.cultinformation.org.uk/home.html</a>, a site that >links to RSQUBF. It looks like the advise is geared >toward families with loved ones who are members (not >leaders) of cults, but there are some valuable pieces >of advise, nonetheless. > ><hr> > >How Do I Help a Cult Member? - The Do's and Don'ts > >The Do's > > * DO try to keep in regular contact via mail or >telephone even if there is little response. > > * DO express sincere love for the cult member at >every available opportunity. > > * DO keep a diary of comments, attitudes and >events associated with his/her life in the cult. > > * DO always welcome the cult member back into the >family home no matter what is said. > > * DO keep copies of all written correspondence >from you and the individual. > > * DO record all the names, addresses and phone >numbers of people linked with the cult. > > * DO try to bite your tongue if the cult member >makes unkind comments. > > * DO read all of the recommended books relating to >cults and mind control, as well as reading other >information on the cult in question. > > * DO seek help and information from organisations >specialising in counter-cult work. We care about you >and your individual situation. > > > >The Don'ts > > * DO NOT rush into adopting a potential solution >before carefully researching the cult problem. > > * DO NOT say:"You are in a cult; you are >brainwashed". > > * DO NOT give money to the member of the group. > > * DO NOT feel guilty. This is not a problem caused >by families. > > * DO NOT act in an angry or hostile manner towards >the cult member. > > * DO NOT feel alone. It happens to thousands of >families every year. > > * DO NOT underestimate the control the cult has >over a member. > > * DO NOT antagonise the cult member by ridiculing >his/her beliefs. > > * DO NOT be judgemental or confrontational towards >the cult member. > > * DO NOT antagonise any of the cult's leadership >or members. > > * DO NOT be persuaded by a cult 'specialist' to >pay large sums of money without verifying his/her >qualifications. > > * DO NOT give up hope of success in helping your >family member to leave the group no matter how long >the involvement has already been > > * DO NOT neglect yourself or other family members.
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