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Date Posted: 21:14:04 06/22/04 Tue
Author: Robert
Subject: Re: ubf is Golwalla on a larger scale
In reply to: Nick T. 's message, "ubf is Golwalla on a larger scale" on 10:14:34 06/21/04 Mon

>The above article was brought to my attention by my
>father, who on Father's Day was painfully reminded of
>how I was lured into the ubfcult and he felt helpless
>to keep me from the traps of ubf. (The Golwolla
>article centers on the physical abuse. ubf had lots
>of physical abuse back then, now they are mainly using
>spiritual and emotional and financial abuse.)
>
>One time my father arranged for me to speak with a man
>who is a Wheaton grad and son of a minister. This was
>around 1986, I want to say. After talking together
>for an hour or so, the man told my father that there
>didn't seem to be any reason to worry. He just didn't
>understand the cult problem, as Chris says, so very
>few do. I actually don't remember one word the guy
>said, as I was so indoctrinated into the ubf mindset
>that I was merely blocking any thoughts he tried to
>bring to my attention. There really is thought
>control, I was under it for many years.
>
>As time went on, I became more and more cemented into
>the ubfcult, and fell away from my parents and family
>totally. Yesterday, my fatherand I had about a 20
>minute talk, prompted by my father reading the
>Golwolla article. It is still very vivid to my
>parents the suffering they went thru when I joined the
>ubfcult. Looking back, they tried to get thru tome,
>but they lament that there were no sources of info to
>show to me that ubf was an abusive cult. Our websites
>are a godsend to warn recruits what ubf really does.
>
>To me, the ubf was a genuine Christian group that was
>worth leaving everything behind, even my family and
>sacrificing my future. Over time, it began to become
>apparent that there were serious, dangerous problems
>at the ubf. But these dangers had been very
>skillfully hidden from me. And when they did become
>visible, there were many, esp ubfKoreans, who offered
>a whole slew of lies and excuses to keep my head in
>the ubf. The 1989ubfarrangedmarriage kept me in the
>shadow of ubf long after my head began to come out,
>maybe another nine years.
>
>Some of the big events were the departures of very
>active and high ranking members such as James Kim and
>Gus Park and John Shin and the departure of dozens of
>ubfKoreans in Chicago and many well respected
>Americans (afterwards the ubfins could say nothing but
>evil about all these people), the departure of the
>whole Ohio State group, and the Donna A. fiasco (which
>was repeated several times since then). Personally, I
>could not reconcile how I could never recruit anyone
>in like 8 years of recruiting, tho following every ubf
>idea they could throw out there.
>
>I had quit all forms of ubf study by 1992. I
>languished in a state of depression for another six or
>seven years, waiting for ubf to miraculously change.
>There was all kinds of motivation and opportunity for
>ubf to change, but it never happened. On the positive
>side, every year or two a new child came to my life,
>and they were a great comfort to me to forget the bad
>taste of ubf.
>
>Finally in 1999, I began to come back to my senses
>after deciding on my own that I should take some adult
>continuing Ed Bible classes at the Moody Bible
>Institute. The classes cost only ten dollars apiece.
>It was the best ten dollars I ever will spend. I got
>to spend time around reputable Christians, study the
>Bible in a non-twisted manner (this means no ulterior
>motives such as to make a ubfKOP or whatever). I got
>to see the students at Moody and how they conducted
>themselves with grace and joy, and it was very natural
>and not artificial. Eventually, I was able to start
>to see that ubf was against what reputable Christian
>groups are all about. Finally, thru tremendous pain
>and suffering, I had come to know the truth about ubf.
> At his very time, my ubfspouse filed for divorce in
>January 2002, about the same day that EE Chang Woo was
>killed in a fire while in the toilet at his mortgage
>free home.
>
>I am now in the position where my own parents were
>almost 20 years ago, but I now worry about not one,
>but five of my own children, who are being sucked into
>a cult that hides its dark and sinister side untill a
>person is trapped. Please pray for these five
>innocent children as the ubf financed divorce drags
>on.
>
>Anyone who is contemplating joining the ubf, please
>don't do it. You will regret joining the ubf. There
>are so many healthy and genuine ministries. Stick
>with reputable Christians. God bless you all.

Personally, I could not reconcile how I could never recruit anyone in like 8 years of recruiting, tho following every ubf idea they could throw out there.

I feel for you Nick, I felt the same way. For years all I wanted to do was share the gospel with friends and students and after years of "fishing" all I studied with was a few students for just a few lessons than they would leave Bible study. At the time I could not understand why they left, which left me wondering if it was because of something I did wrong but now I have to wonder If they knew something I didn't and if quite frankly God just simply didn't bless our efforts because of the ministry we were in. As For your marriage I pray that the Lord will lead you through this time of strugggle and that God can heal your family.

In Christ,
Robert

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