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Date Posted: 19:17:21 02/07/05 Mon
Author: PECAS
Subject: The benefits of RsqUBF
In reply to: ChicagoXile 's message, "ATTN: PECAS" on 19:21:36 02/06/05 Sun

I did not spend significant time reading rsqubf, ubf.info.de, or escapeUBF until 2004. By that time, the worst of the abuse I experienced through two training periods was finished. I found three benefits from RsqUBF during my time in UBF.

1. Confirmation about problems -

a. Confirmation that what bothered me about UBF also bothered many others. Rsqubf readings and discussions confirmed that the problems I experienced in my chapter were not just my personal disagreements. I found that there were many people who had experienced the same problems. The problems to which I am referring are systematic obedience training, requirements to overthank leaders, numbers goals, human-centered training, and unrepentant leaders.

b. Samuel Lee's personality and actions. I was always bothered my Samuel Lee's rudeness, harshness, lack of kindness, and insensitivity when I heard him speak and when his letters were read at our Friday meeting. Because of hearing so much praise of Samuel Lee, I wrongly assumed that perhaps I did not understand him and that I did not understand the relationship Lee had with his coworkers. After reading about Lee on this site, I found many people who had been mistreated by Samuel Lee and other leaders in UBF. I found that Samuel Lee treated UBF members much worse than what I could have imagined.

2. Opportunity to confront my chapter director - Within the readings and discussions in rsqubf, I found my chapter director and his wife mentioned. I discussed what I read about my chapter director withi him. He did not deny anything. I told him that he had wronged some former members and they should apologize. The next morning at our prayer meeting, the chapter director's wife prayed that I would not be influenced by bitterness and anger. I asked why she prayed that prayer. She and my chapter director dismissed those they hurt as being bitter and angry. I continued to question them. My chapter director became filled with anger. He said that I must want to be a member of the reform group and that I should go to a reform UBF. (There was no reform UBF near where I lived.) I replied that simply wanted to make him aware that he had wronged some former coworkers. I told him that he should apologize to them just as he always expects me to apologize for even the smallest mistake. He snapped that 'it was in the past and he no longer wanted to talk about it.' I thought that my chapter director and his wife were hypocrites because they always expected me to publicly repent for sins when they never did. This confrontation confirmed it for me. There hypocrisy was slapped right in my face.

3. Marriage by Faith - Throughout my time in UBf I did not accept absolute obedience, numbers doctrines, and overthankfulness and praise of leaders. However, I was convinced that marriage by faith was the best way for Christians to marry. I looked forward to marrying by faith. I bought into all of the UBF rhetoric that marriage by faith was such a blessing to everyone who particpated. I could see that the marriages were arranged, but I believed that UBF leaders really had pure spiritual motives to help UBF members marry. Readings from this site and ubf.info.de opened my spiritual eyes wide. Reading about all of the manipulation behind the scences, marriages that were politically motivated, secret divorces, disfunctional marriages, and interference within marriages by leaders caused me to seriously question whether I should marry by faith. Honestly, when I read about the how Bonn UBF uses Korean women to manipulate German men through marraige, including husbands being threatened with divorce and being kicked out of their homes for questioning leaders, my heart rate accelerated 100 times. My chapter director and his wife wanted me to marry a Korean woman. As previously stated, I confronted my leaders about past sins within UBF and present issues within our UBF. I could imagine how my wife would be used to keep me quiet and submissive. I am most thankful to God that I left UBF before marrying by faith.

In Christ,

PECAS

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